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Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


omnis_audis - Oct 17, 2009 8:30:27 am PDT #26796 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

ah! that's what I was going to ask. last week, new co-worker said something along the lines of "one in three girls will be inappropriately touched during her childhood. And coincidentally enough, that is about the same odds of women getting raped." Which really floored me. Both stats. Is that anywhere near accurate?


Ginger - Oct 17, 2009 8:32:36 am PDT #26797 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

There was no good luck at the flea market. I came out in negative numbers. It was so cold no one came, and then it started raining. Also, my truck wouldn't start. A kind person helped me jumpstart it. I swear there wasn't anything on, so I don't know what is going on. When does the do-over start?


Laga - Oct 17, 2009 8:59:03 am PDT #26798 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

"one in three girls will be inappropriately touched during her childhood. And coincidentally enough, that is about the same odds of women getting raped." Which really floored me. Both stats. Is that anywhere near accurate?

When I organized Take Back the Night it was "1 in 8 women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime" but I recall reading somewhere recently that that statistic was bogus. I haven't had any luck so far on Snopes.

If asking someone not to touch you and having them persist is inappropriate touching I doubt anyone my age grew up without it. And nobody ever who has a sibling.


WindSparrow - Oct 17, 2009 9:02:51 am PDT #26799 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Aw, Ginger. That sucks. I'd check the battery cables and terminals for corrosion, and also consider having the entire charging system tested, as it may be the alternator. It may well be something else entirely, but these are the ones that have happened to me.

My friend Jude says that the only way that there will ever be true gender equality is when a woman can feel as safe walking down a dark street by herself as a man typically does. There's a lot of sense in that.

Yeah, but even if we get that, we're still out being equally safe to get drunk in mixed company.

last week, new co-worker said something along the lines of "one in three girls will be inappropriately touched during her childhood. And coincidentally enough, that is about the same odds of women getting raped." Which really floored me. Both stats. Is that anywhere near accurate?

According to RAINN [link] 1 in 6 women are victims of sexual assault. And here is a fact page from the Child Molestation Research & Prevention Institute on child molestation that gives an estimate of 1 in 10 children [link] . Incidentally, official training materials for my job, I have been told that 1 in 4 developmentally disabled adults is a victim of rape or molestation. So it looks like your co-worker was not correct, but the numbers as estimated - must be estimates, because so many victims never report the crime - are still staggering.


omnis_audis - Oct 17, 2009 9:05:37 am PDT #26800 of 30000
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir

Even 10% is crazy high, and that is the lowest estimate given. Crazy I say.


WindSparrow - Oct 17, 2009 9:28:03 am PDT #26801 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

Even 10% is crazy high, and that is the lowest estimate given. Crazy I say.

What's crazier to my mind is the fact that the vast majority of sexual assault is not the stranger breaking into someone's home, or dragging the victim into a dark alley, but is committed by someone the victim knows. Mad Men is apparently portraying rape in an accurate way. Dunno. Don't watch the show.


WindSparrow - Oct 17, 2009 9:46:24 am PDT #26802 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

[link] Here is a cute bat taking a drink of water on the wing, just for a change of pace.


erikaj - Oct 17, 2009 10:09:27 am PDT #26803 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!

I don't get catcalled. Not that I want to; it's shitty,obviously. I would hate it. But I also know it's not because they respect me too much not to do it. It's because my chair neuters me. That's not exactly a feminist victory.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 17, 2009 10:26:12 am PDT #26804 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

That's not exactly a feminist victory.

Yeah. There's a whole disabled sexuality thing that confuses this issue a whole lot for wheelchair/walking aid users (and presumably many other people with disabilities too).


sj - Oct 17, 2009 10:27:46 am PDT #26805 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I've found it really shocking when I have seen cat calling, etc.because, much like Erika, it never happens to me. However, I'm usually extra paranoid if I am out past dark alone because I know I can't run fast if the situation calls for it.