Don't tell him that Olivia knows how to open those by herself.

vw, I don't think it is a small thing that a guy says he will do something and then does not, especially if he is meant to be helping someone who is sick. And it really bugs me that he won't help with clean up even when you specifically ask. I'm sorry CBD is no longer in the running for World's Best Boyfriend, but I'm not sorry you aren't going to be stuck with him for ages, trying to be content with the crumbs he was willing to give.

We did end up talking about it, and he washed a few dishes, though not all of them. Whatever. It's not worth it any more, you know?

Vortex - your student assistant was accepted at your school? He wasn't just waiting for the bus to somewhere and decided to wander in?

Go you sparky.

Long ago kindle discussion, OT: I downloaded stanza for my iPhone. It's great. I'm certain the kindle is better for reading, but I love having everything together and stanza is free and awesome.

Ion: the G key is broked on my keyboard. Sad.

d so glad your pipes didn't burst but oh how annoying.

We're having a planned breakup.

I...don't understand this. Were you like, "Okay, right now, I like you fine, but in a month I'm not going to like you, so be ready,"? Or "I don't really like you, but let's give it another month to see,"?

I am SO not emotionally mature enough to do this. If things are at the point where we shouldn't be dating, then it needs to happen NOW. I want to basically cut & run, slash & burn, and salt the goddamn earth.

Waiting a month to do that would only give me ample time to buy a firearm and learn how to use it. And plan where to hide the body. (See also: F2F thread.)

But, again: Steph /= emotionally mature. My breakups -- like my relationships, I guess -- have always been tempestuous and emotional, instead of reasoned and planned out.

Maybe you could teach a class, vw. Seriously. Lots of people (myself OBVIOUSLY included) don't know how to break up well.

I...don't understand this. Were you like, "Okay, right now, I like you fine, but in a month I'm not going to like you, so be ready,"? Or "I don't really like you, but let's give it another month to see,"?

I hope you actually want an answer to this question...

So, we were like, "It appears we're on different paths in our lives, so let's split before we drive each other crazy. But, look, we've got some plans coming up, so let's still do those and then move on."

We still like each other. I'd even go as far to say that we still love each other. But, we have some differences that won't be reconciled (kids, religion, etc.). So, we've accepted that, finished our plans, had some good sex, and then we'll part ways. I imagine we'll stay in touch, but we're playing that part by ear.

Maybe you could teach a class, vw. Seriously. Lots of people (myself OBVIOUSLY included) don't know how to break up well.

And to add to comment on this... I think DBT has helped me get to this point. Before, EVERYTHING had to be an emotional battle--drama, I'd even say. I don't want that anymore.

You know, I've liked Aaron. He's been really good for me. So, he's not "the one" (ETA: though, I'm not sure I believe in "the one"). Why should we have a big dramatic breakup if it's not necessary? Why can't we celebrate what we had...what we did for each other...and move on to the next phase of our lives?

I've never actually broken up with a boyfriend this way but I have had a few situations where there was lots of attraction but no relationship was ever going to go anywhere. We sort of just decided to walk away because while we really liked each other, we wanted different things in life.

I'm kind of sitting here picturing Steph with her jaw still dropping at my response. Come back everyone!

My breakups were sort of like that, but less "we'll break up at a future date" and more "we'll break up now but keep having sex and in every other way dating for a while".