Yeah, it really is. It's visceral and extremely personal from the standpoint of everyone experiences it differently, so to pull a compare and contrast and "My misery sucks bigger donkey balls than your misery," is monumentally unfair to everyone involved.

Yeah, but honestly, that's asking for logical reactions, which you're never going to get when the starting point is that personal. And I think PI and SI people should keep themselves separated for just that reason.

::tucks Bertha into suitcase and hitches a ride with Empress::

Call Deb and see if I can borrow the cross-bow, would ya? Mine is all janky.

Seriously, y'all, I had the same reaction. My friend couldn't believe her ears, and had to ask someone else who was present if that's really what had been said. And here's the kicker: her m-i-l lost a baby due to SIDS.

"It didn't take". Possibly the most evil sentence ever spoken.

I think PI and SI people should keep themselves separated for just that reason.

One of my Ya-Ya's was diagnosed with PI and it was hard to talk to her about my inability to conceive because all I got was, "Well you have a baby." So, I stopped talking about it with her, as much for my sake as well as hers. I knew how much she was hurting and didn't want to add to it by being "smug mommy. She would occasionally ask, and I would tell her what was going on, but I never brought it up unless she or someone else did.

Completely not on topic, but I was just unpacking a few things from the car and remembered this.

Last weekend my mother presented me with a cookbook my 2nd grade class put together all those years ago. It was mimeographed.

You can imagine how clear decades-old mimeographed sheets handwritten by 7-year-olds look after (mumble) years.

So, the question in, photocopy or try and scan it directly? I was thinking a high contrast photocopy, then scan the result, but...

On Topic:

"It didn't take"

Wow.

In happier news:

Baby Panda Sneeze

(don't know if it's been posted before, but even if it has, you probably want to see it again)

Yeah, but honestly, that's asking for logical reactions, which you're never going to get when the starting point is that personal. And I think PI and SI people should keep themselves separated for just that reason.

I'm kinda with Plei on the issue of the reactions amongst support boards for infertility, secondary infertility and ttc. The reactions can sometimes be ugly and hurtful, but they are the reactions of people that are hurting.

I basically got booted off my ttc thread when I got pregnant at the same time as 4 other women and then they each miscarried. I won't say it didn't hurt, but I knew enough to not take it personally.

And here's the kicker: her m-i-l lost a baby due to SIDS.

Hmm. I wonder if that is part of why she had such a hard hearted reaction. Grief is weird, esp unprocessed grief.