Everything looks good from here... Yes. Yes, this is a fertile land, and we will thrive. We will rule over all this land, and we will call it... 'This Land.' I think we should call it 'your grave!' Ah, curse your sudden but inevitable betrayal! Ha ha HA! Mine is an evil laugh! Now die! Oh, no, God! Oh, dear God in heaven!

Wash ,'Serenity'


Spike's Bitches 44: It's about the rules having changed.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Sparky1 - Oct 07, 2009 11:01:46 am PDT #25589 of 30000
Librarian Warlord

Wow, Sparky, what kind of case was it?

Criminal child sexual abuse, involving daycare workers.


Kathy A - Oct 07, 2009 11:19:35 am PDT #25590 of 30000
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil

Maybe not at the Daley Center one?

That's the one I was on-call for this summer, and it's the only one in Cook County without free parking.


Shir - Oct 07, 2009 11:21:48 am PDT #25591 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

(Boyfriend, not husband, but since we live together, he really is a spousal equivalent.)

OK, now my English as a second language shows. Isn't a long time boyfriend with whom you live it is the equivalent of a spouse? Not in the Husband/Wife meaning, but in the legal and emotional sense of the word?

Also, other stuff I'm confused about. Jury duty? All this talk? It's alien language to me. Wikipedia tells me that since Israel was one of the colonies, and the British Crown abrogated the jury duty in the colonies, we don't have one.


Polter-Cow - Oct 07, 2009 11:24:17 am PDT #25592 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

Isn't a long time boyfriend with whom you live it is the equivalent of a spouse? Not in the Husband/Wife meaning, but in the legal and emotional sense of the word?

I think after seven years, it's common-law marriage or something? But my co-worker refers to her boyfriend whom she lives with but has not married as her "partner." Which made me think she was a lesbian at first.


Steph L. - Oct 07, 2009 11:28:06 am PDT #25593 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Isn't a long time boyfriend with whom you live it is the equivalent of a spouse? Not in the Husband/Wife meaning, but in the legal and emotional sense of the word?

I think after seven years, it's common-law marriage or something?

That sounds right. Though we haven't been together that long.

my co-worker refers to her boyfriend whom she lives with but has not married as her "partner."

I do that on forms that want a phone number for emergency contact, and they want to know the relationship of the person. "Boyfriend" sounds too junior-high, so I've defaulted to "Partner." But in person I introduce him as my boyfriend.


Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 07, 2009 11:33:46 am PDT #25594 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"

In a number of ways, you're counted as 'common-law spouses' from the moment you live together here. This causes The Girl and I no end of problems, as we don't want to merge our finances until we're married. There are a few ways that the seven-year rule still counts, like co-ownership of property, but other things kick in early. I presume this is solely to save the government money.


Zenkitty - Oct 07, 2009 11:36:38 am PDT #25595 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I think common-law marriage is a state-by-state thing. After I'd been living with the same guy for about seven years, it occurred to me (with horror) that we might actually be married, so I checked. To my relief, Tennessee does not have common-law marriage. Or at least, it didn't circa 1991.


Glamcookie - Oct 07, 2009 11:38:13 am PDT #25596 of 30000
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

"Partner" is very confusing when used by straights. I get why it's used (more serious/adult than boyfriend/girlfriend), but I always think the person is telling me he/she is gay. The straight friend use of "girlfriend" is similarly confusing.


Polter-Cow - Oct 07, 2009 11:39:03 am PDT #25597 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

Yeah, I get confused by the "girlfriend" thing too.


Steph L. - Oct 07, 2009 11:39:53 am PDT #25598 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism

but I always think the person is telling me he/she is gay.

I do wonder if whoever reads it thinks I'm gay (though The Boy's name is unequivocally a man's name), or thinks that he's my business partner or something.