Oops.(to Kathy's mom conversation)
I'm pretty blunt with my family, close and extended, so I don't get a lot of questions. But I also have a lot of cousins older than I that are still single and fine with it, so it makes it easier, I am sure. Now, I'm pretty sure I completely confuse my SIL (she's said as much, especially regarding kids because the way I am with hers-she even implied that I shouldn't let being single keep me from parenting. Hah. Not the issue) but she doesn't make like it is a bad thing. Just something she doesn't get.
I'm surprised it took her that long! I told her that my Kinsey scale was firmly pointing towards very het.
I am unsurprised that people assume, and it is sort of hard in practice to explain that I am a sort of non-practicing bi-sexual. I skew to the middle of the Kinsey scale though wise, but have had no physical relationships with women, and no relationships of any kind in about ten years, which is not upsetting to me. So a non-practicing, bi-sexual asexual? Which is really more than my Facebook friends, co-workers and extended family need to think about my sex life!
No one asks me why I'm not married. I guess I have a single sort of face. Or attitude.
It's a built-in "I may punch you in the crotch if you ask me that" look.
I've wondered if Facebook has an app where I can punch people in the crotch for asking me why I'm not married.
Want a pretend ex-fiance that you caught in bed with another man?
No one asks me why I'm not married. I guess I have a single sort of face. Or attitude.
No one asks me either. Not sure why not.
Work people have assumed I am married, but rarely ask; I find out in random office gossip. I wonder if it is because I have rings on both ring fingers, though they are definitely not traditional wedding rings. Or maybe just because I do tend to keep most of my personal life personal outside of a very few, and few cross that boundary.
In "I'm a complete hypocrite" news, I do wonder about one coworker, in terms of what her experience must be like compared to mine. She's probably older than me by a decade, a pretty conservative in terms of practice jew, and lives in the same building as her mom and takes care of her. Knowing her religious/social culture only as she's described it, I wonder about the kind of pressures she's gotten from family and the community.
I don't get a lot of asking, but I know a lot of people assume I'm gay. They especially did when my best friend was dating another woman, and I was therefore hanging out with a lot of lesbians.
In other complete hypocrite news, I was recently friended on Facebook by the guy that in university we referred to as a "sexual enigma." Women were always throwing themselves at him, and he never took any of them up on it, nor did he seem too interested in guys. (Sadly, I had a friend who wrote to him on the eve of her wedding to another man and said, "I've always loved you, I'm yours for the asking." and he never responded to her.) I was so excited to find out he was married and had a child, I called my friends, and was all, "[Sexual enigma] is married!!! to a woman!!!"
On the other hand, I've always had good looking male friends. Why hasn't that counted for anything?
single women run in my family. My maternal grandmother had 2 older sisters who never married, my dad had a sister who never married and I am one of the three oldest sisters in my family and none of us are married. I, at least, did date and had relationships. I'm not sure my sisters can say the same.
