It's just what you like in the sack. Between you and your partners.

Exactly.

I think more than the maternal thing, I can see Dean wanting a dom to take some of that weight off his shoulders, to be able to let go and be taken care of, but for the most part I don't really see either Sam or Dean as really invested in a strict BDSM relationship.

And come on. Dean likes to fuck. We know this.

Now I'm paranoid that there are guys out there who think they've owned me.

Then again, I know there are guys out there who really wanted me to own them...

I'm not sure why this is upsetting me so much today. Just one of those things that throws me out of otherwise good smut. And then makes me wonder at my lack of comprehension of the world at large--like the assertion that women like slash because het romance is inherently power-slanted. Have I just been missing that?

check out architeuthis' own personal opinions on the subject: [link]

like the assertion that women like slash because het romance is inherently power-slanted. Have I just been missing that?

See, I do think that is *one* reason some women like slash. Not the only one, though.

But a lot of het romance, and I mean actual published genre romance, is very much about finding the hero. Now it's all supposed to be about "saving each other" but there's so much that still's shockingly traditional -- the Harlequin stuff where the secretary meets the billionaire, etc.

Of course, the women reading that probably *aren't* the ones reading slash, but still.

women like slash because het romance is inherently power-slanted

and then the wimmins go write and read power-slanted slash...

then the wimmins go write and read power-slanted slash...

Exactly! I feel like a freak because the little het romance I read is very balanced, and then I'm railing at the appalling carryover of what I consider 50s morality into slash relationships.

It really saddens me at the sexism I see some women carry over into a male space, like they work at perpetuating exactly what should be easiest to leave behind (and that's without the trope of demonising the girlfriend to get to the slashy relationship).

But for all I know, the gay guys I know don't represent shit, and neither do I.

Will read arch later.

Not weighing in on the current discussion.

I just want to throw in my 2 cents for my favorite crossroads demon, the sultry second who gave Dean only a year in exchange for his brother's life.

archie's got another good rant and insights here [link]

Honestly, as far as I've been informed, some people just like doing some stuff, and that dictates what happens in bed. It doesn't have to be a big sexual politics mapping of their personality.

The gay community does tend to equate one's preferences with personality type and gender roles, however, so slash writers aren't just making it up out of nowhere.

slash writers aren't just making it up out of nowhere.

See, that's entirely what I was afraid of, that what I'd been told by friends was not representative.

Then again, not my sex life, so it shouldn't be so depressing. But now I start to suspect everyone, since it's evidently more widespread than I'd imagined, and that includes former and potential partners.