Sorry, bonny, but that's such a specific and difficult set of circumstances I can't think of anything that would be particularly helpful.
I will note that the movie
Lilo and Stitch
does address: losing parents, anger, acting out and inappropriate behavior, unconventional "chosen" families etc.
Lilo and Stich is a great idea. I'll mention it.
I don't expect any one, or even a few, books to cover all the issues. Adoption. Anger. Same sex parents. Dealing with inappropriate question. That's a lot to cover. A mini library would be apt, I'd say.
I just asked a colleague what books were helpful for her kids (she co-parents with her wife). She said Molly's Family was great.
I don't know when or why my City Council member got my email address, but he is so far up my ass! Now he wants to be Facebook friends!
Tickets for xmas booked. Now to just get my shopping done. Must go buy shirts at Squidfire.
After 8 hours in the car driving home, we got home and I got us a quick dinner: frozen pizza, frozen corn and applesauce.
I am officially a Lunch Lady, sans hairnet.
bonny, surfing from javachik's link, this one seems to be fairly appropriate, too. Lots of good reviews by parents of toddlers, with a few objections--which I always figure denotes something's working right.
It's a meant to be thing Beverly. I clicked on the 'surprise me' button to look into the Family Book and it brought up the page with two female characters and two kids, one a bit older than the other. That one is definitely on the list. Thanks.