Ok. I think I know why I'm cranky. I could use someone to tell me if I'm overreacting or justified in my cranky.
I haven't seen CBD since Monday. We were supposed to get together last night, but he ended up canceling to play games with his friends (he plays with them every Friday night too). Apparently, they had gotten a new game that they loved, and they were going to play last night, and he was afraid if he didn't go over that he'd be shut out of playing that game in the future--or not be as experienced or whatever. So, fine. I studied then got together with a friend.
So, we had plans to get together on Sunday. Often on the weekend we'll spend most of one day together. Today he asks if I mind if we go to dinner with his parents. I say, fine. Then tonight I call to say that it's going to be warm, and we should go ice skating in the afternoon (we've been trying to go ice skating for a month now). He's like, "Oh, I can't. I've got a magic tournament. I'm just going to meet you at dinner."
So, I won't have seen him in a week, and when I do see him it will be at dinner with his parents. I'm annoyed. I'm not really upset, but I'm annoyed, and he doesn't really understand why. Am I overtired and overreacting? Or am I justified to be annoyed?
I would be annoyed.
Best book EVER: Artisan Bread in 5 Minutes a Day
Ooh that does sound good. I wonder if I can track down a copy by Saturday. That's bread baking day. For his vacation D has decided to do everything on the Mental Health Calendar (it has things to do each day instead of days of the week).
I would say you are justified in being annoyed.
You are trying to spend time with him and he keeps changing things around and not letting you know until (it seems) the last minute.
I would be more than annoyed. I would be wondering whether CBD was intentionally trying to get some distance. But I'm paranoid like that.
I be wondering whether CBD was intentionally trying to get some distance. But I'm paranoid like that.
I'm not really worried about that. I think he's doing a 180, and he's allowed, I guess. Part of why he freaked was the amount of time we were spending together--we were basically living together. So, when we got back together we set a limit of not spending more than three nights a week together. That's been good in many ways. But, this week has just been weird. And now annoying.
I'd be annoyed, too. And paranoid in the same manner as Laga.
Yeah. The Bible says a lot about salvation. Peter said repent and be baptised, Paul said it was about faith in Jesus, James said faith without works is dead, Matthew 25 mentions only works and rejects faith, John says no one comes to Jesus except God draws them.
I was given to understand in my "Religion and the Early Church" course, that one of the reasons for including so many variations on a theme was so that it would be more inclusive. That there was no one true way and that any of those methods were acceptable. The early founders didn't want to exclued people, they wanted to get as many converts as possible and if that meant including the sacrifice of two goats and a guinea pig to prove your faith, then it got included. From that sense, Christianity has been a fantastic failure.
vw, I think I'd be annoyed, but not upset. In the relationshippy sense. Given that overcloseness was an issue before, he may be (unconsciously) testing the boundaries a bit. So, okay, give him shit that he's fucking with your plans a little. But really, you haven't been together all that long, and the occasional time when his buddies come up with something last minute that he wants to do? Is that really that big a deal?
you're shitting me. @@
Heh. And when I was going around asking each group how they were doing, I noticed and said, "OK, how are you doing here, other than looking up the answer on the internet?" And he wasn't even embarrassed, and kept the laptop out for a while longer.
