Zoe: Don't think it's a good spot, sir. She still has the advantage over us. Mal: Everyone always does. That's what makes us special.

'Serenity'


Spike's Bitches 43: Who am I kidding? I love to brag.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


sj - Jan 20, 2009 4:42:34 pm PST #8457 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

(((((askye)))))


sj - Jan 20, 2009 4:43:04 pm PST #8458 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

(((((askye)))))


sj - Jan 20, 2009 4:43:30 pm PST #8459 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Gris - Jan 20, 2009 4:45:00 pm PST #8460 of 10000
Hey. New board.

meara, she could still feel that way. I usually go to the second date, even if I'm not feeling the chemistry, if I liked the person at all the first time. She could be the same.

I've been in your particular shoes quite rarely (as the guy in het relationships, it's usually on me to send the e-mail or not) but I would usually be pretty honest: "We could hang out again, I guess, but I'm pretty sure it won't go anywhere romantic, as I'm not really feeling the chemistry so far." and leave it up to her to be like "Aww, okay, bye forever" or "I think you're wrong and I could still knock your socks off romantically" or "Yeah, now that you mention it, me too. Let's play scrabble with your friends!"


billytea - Jan 20, 2009 4:50:42 pm PST #8461 of 10000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.

I'm so sorry, Kristin.


Laga - Jan 20, 2009 4:51:38 pm PST #8462 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

I had a friend who appeared to be everything I'm looking for a girl but the chemistry just wasn't there. I think it took us six months before we finally figured out the sparks weren't sparking. I'm not sorry we dated as long as we did but I think it would have been better if one of us has said something earlier.

iow, Gris is wise.


meara - Jan 20, 2009 4:53:00 pm PST #8463 of 10000

Yeah, that WAS the second date (which is why I went on it--the first one was fun, but I was kinda like "was the good friend chemistry, or good anything-more chemistry? I can't quite tell..."). Guess I'll carefully craft an email tomorrow. I'm really kicking myself for not sending the email earlier, because it lowers my chances of the friend-convert, which I was really hoping for, because she did seem really cool. But it's a tricky play, and any added awkwardness brings your stats on that one down (to make it a huge sports metaphor there ;)


Laga - Jan 20, 2009 4:53:51 pm PST #8464 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

All my sympathies, Kristin.


Fay - Jan 20, 2009 4:55:06 pm PST #8465 of 10000
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.

Oh, Kristin, I'm so sorry for you and for all of your kids and colleagues. And especially Olivia's sister. You're all in my thoughts. Healing-ma and dealing-ma your way.


sj - Jan 20, 2009 4:59:51 pm PST #8466 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

(((((Kristin))))) I'm so sorry. From what I hear she was an amazing young woman. So much -ma to you, your school and her family.