I have to get to bed now. Peace~ma all around.
Atherton: Half the men in this room wish you were on their arm, tonight. Inara: Only half. I must be losing my indefinable allure.
'Shindig'
Spike's Bitches 43: Who am I kidding? I love to brag.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Jan 01, 2009 8:48:16 pm PST #6561 of 10000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Shir - Jan 01, 2009 10:34:27 pm PST #6562 of 10000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Night, WindSparrow.
{{Nora}} Anything we/I can do to help?
Pix - Jan 01, 2009 10:44:57 pm PST #6563 of 10000
The status is NOT quo.
Oh Nora, I wish I could do something to make this any better or any easier. Please know that we are here, and please don't hesitate to come vent or rant or distract yourself here. We love you.
Steph L. - Jan 02, 2009 3:41:48 am PST #6564 of 10000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Nora, I hope you were able to decompress a little bit and get away from all the yelling.
Nora, on a somewhat different note, I thought you should know that because of you pointing me to it, I have been reading Kate Harding's blog regularly. It's sinking in slowly.
That's awesome, Andi! Let me qualify that: I don't think that the message of fat acceptance is "You're fat; that's the way it is. Deal." or "If you're fat, you won't change, so accept it!"
Some fat acceptance blogs, on the face of it, sound like #2. And some really do give that message. I don't get that from Kate Harding's blog. The general message I've gotten is this: "Yeah, according to an outside standard -- which is often arbitrary -- you're fat. That's okay. It's not a crime, it's not a moral failing, and it's not that easy to get rid of, but that's okay, too. No matter what your size, you deserve love, respect, to be treated like any other human being, comfortable airline seats, romance, and pretty clothes. And fuck anyone who says otherwise."
Which is a pretty good message. I've simplified it down, of course, but on the whole, I really like her blog and what she says.
Nora Deirdre - Jan 02, 2009 4:13:28 am PST #6565 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Nora, on a somewhat different note, I thought you should know that because of you pointing me to it, I have been reading Kate Harding's blog regularly. It's sinking in slowly.
Yay! That is cheering.
Thanks for the support. It really makes a difference having a supportive place away from the madness that I can just vent and not have to worry about sounding pitiful or lame (even though I might be!)
hippocampus - Jan 02, 2009 4:18:05 am PST #6566 of 10000
not your mom's socks.
Nora - you are neither. It sounds like you are trying to help organize and grieve at the same time - and that is heroic. Seekrit note to Nora's people: Step Off.
Hugs to you.
vw bug - Jan 02, 2009 4:19:43 am PST #6567 of 10000
Mostly lurking...
Nora, could a DCista kidnap you for a few hours today? Would that be helpful? Or, I could always jump in the car and be there in about 8 hours. And I would totally do that.
Nora Deirdre - Jan 02, 2009 4:36:36 am PST #6568 of 10000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Stuff I need to do today:
- meeting with funeral director at 1pm
- talk to local places about post-service catering
- photos
- get death notice ok'd by L
- get obit written
JZ - Jan 02, 2009 4:47:49 am PST #6569 of 10000
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
That's a short list but a daunting one. Finish-it-quickly~ma to you. And I'm sorry that family stuff and other people's expectations and flip-outs are making everything even more stressful. Keep checking in and venting.
Yay sj for a successful day--pain-free alone is good, but it sounds like you hosted a great party, too, so double yay!
sj - Jan 02, 2009 4:57:59 am PST #6570 of 10000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Yay sj for a successful day--pain-free alone is good, but it sounds like you hosted a great party, too, so double yay!
Thanks, JZ! I had a really great day, mostly due to really wonderful friends. It's good for the soul for me to remember how very lucky I am.
Now, who wants to visit so I can have motivation to keep the apartment as clean and neat as it currently is?