hoping you are feeling our love, Nora.

bath time for me

I have to get to bed now. Peace~ma all around.

Night, WindSparrow.

{{Nora}} Anything we/I can do to help?

Oh Nora, I wish I could do something to make this any better or any easier. Please know that we are here, and please don't hesitate to come vent or rant or distract yourself here. We love you.

Nora, I hope you were able to decompress a little bit and get away from all the yelling.

Nora, on a somewhat different note, I thought you should know that because of you pointing me to it, I have been reading Kate Harding's blog regularly. It's sinking in slowly.

That's awesome, Andi! Let me qualify that: I don't think that the message of fat acceptance is "You're fat; that's the way it is. Deal." or "If you're fat, you won't change, so accept it!"

Some fat acceptance blogs, on the face of it, sound like #2. And some really do give that message. I don't get that from Kate Harding's blog. The general message I've gotten is this: "Yeah, according to an outside standard -- which is often arbitrary -- you're fat. That's okay. It's not a crime, it's not a moral failing, and it's not that easy to get rid of, but that's okay, too. No matter what your size, you deserve love, respect, to be treated like any other human being, comfortable airline seats, romance, and pretty clothes. And fuck anyone who says otherwise."

Which is a pretty good message. I've simplified it down, of course, but on the whole, I really like her blog and what she says.

Nora, on a somewhat different note, I thought you should know that because of you pointing me to it, I have been reading Kate Harding's blog regularly. It's sinking in slowly.

Yay! That is cheering.

Thanks for the support. It really makes a difference having a supportive place away from the madness that I can just vent and not have to worry about sounding pitiful or lame (even though I might be!)

Nora - you are neither. It sounds like you are trying to help organize and grieve at the same time - and that is heroic. Seekrit note to Nora's people: Step Off.

Hugs to you.

Nora, could a DCista kidnap you for a few hours today? Would that be helpful? Or, I could always jump in the car and be there in about 8 hours. And I would totally do that.

Stuff I need to do today:

- meeting with funeral director at 1pm
- talk to local places about post-service catering
- photos
- get death notice ok'd by L
- get obit written

That's a short list but a daunting one. Finish-it-quickly~ma to you. And I'm sorry that family stuff and other people's expectations and flip-outs are making everything even more stressful. Keep checking in and venting.

Yay sj for a successful day--pain-free alone is good, but it sounds like you hosted a great party, too, so double yay!