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I had to learn to let go of things. Like, my sense of righteous anger.

Personal growth is HARD. t /Barbie Steph

I don't WANT more personal growth

Wrod.

I've been accused of being cold-blooded in the face of bad things, but my reaction is based on the few seconds of "Well, that utterly sucks. Let's see what we need to do." I want to have screaming hysterics, but they're not practical. I kind of envy people who can indulge in histrionics, because they're obviously not the people who have to clean up the mess.

tongue in cheek

I think everybody should have their tongue in Sail's cheek. Well, not everybody. But you know, a select list of pretty people.

If I could let go of the need to be acknowledged for being RIGHT (which may well be my downfall one day if I can't let it go), I wouldn't be chock full of resentment.

Oh god. There have been times in my life where resentment was, quite simply, the air that kept me inflated. Without it, I'd have been like a sad, wrinkled, used up balloon drifting on the sea of being and ultimately choking some innocent sea creature to death.

Seriously. Kept. Me. Going. Major respect for that emotion, yo. But, then it outstayed its usefulness and got replaced.

Unsolicited advice, ho: Try not to use language like 'I can't let go of it.' Even while you believe it is true. No point in concretizing sometthing by repeating it.

I'm not advocating the any airy fairy, just squeeze your eyes tight enough and wish hard enough garbage. I'm talking about the science of brainwashing. Quite practical really. We learn through repetition.

Repeat something else. "I'm gonna love it when I let this go!" Gives your subconscious something to work toward, besides defeat...offers endorphins that spark creative thought and simply reminds you of the choice you are making to think differently.

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I've been accused of being cold-blooded in the face of bad things, but my reaction is based on the few seconds of "Well, that utterly sucks. Let's see what we need to do." I want to have screaming hysterics, but they're not practical.

I'm there with you. It's one of the reasons I end up getting all the dirty emotional jobs in the family. I hate it, but I do it so well and everyone knows it. And that I have a hard time saying "no" to family.

"Aww fuck it. My life could use a little drama and engagement. Seriously, this is a temp job, I'm just out of school, I don't know that many people in Boston. Why not?"

AWESOME

Existential fist bump!!

Two questions I ask people who are feeling bad about descisions they have made...In the overall scheme of the Universe, how important is this, really? Coupled with Was there any blood let?

Oh and, Are you ever going to see these people again?

Unsolicited advice, ho:

Who are you calling "ho"? [Kidding!]

Try not to use language like 'I can't let go of it.' Even while you believe it is true. No point in concretizing sometthing by repeating it.

Oh, busted! You're totally right.

I'm not advocating the any airy fairy, just squeeze your eyes tight enough and wish hard enough garbage. I'm talking about the science of brainwashing. Quite practical really. We learn through repetition.

Excellent point. Thank you!

I've been accused of being cold-blooded in the face of bad things, but my reaction is based on the few seconds of "Well, that utterly sucks. Let's see what we need to do." I want to have screaming hysterics, but they're not practical.

What I loved in the movie Serenity (because I wasn't crazy about it) was when Zoe was understandably flipping out after Wash was killed, and she pulls it together to kick ass. I guess what I mean is, I loved watching the transformation -- you can see it all go across her face in about 10 seconds -- to get the job done in the face of utter loss and despair. Cold-blooded? Not at all. Asses have to be kicked or more people will die.

I've been accused of being cold-blooded in the face of bad things, but my reaction is based on the few seconds of "Well, that utterly sucks. Let's see what we need to do." I want to have screaming hysterics, but they're not practical.

Dude. Greatest gift you can give, a LOT of the time.

I use that scene from State and Main where Alec Baldwin's fuckupofacharacter wrecks a car and his first response is, "So...that happened."

Jeez, I'm painting myself as someone who skips over feelings in the moment. Not really the case. But the answer to 'now what' really is so powerful.

I have LOVED this discussion. Thanks y'all. Gotta run and prep for the afternoon sessions.

I've been accused of being cold-blooded in the face of bad things, but my reaction is based on the few seconds of "Well, that utterly sucks. Let's see what we need to do." I want to have screaming hysterics, but they're not practical.

Me, too. In fact, I got in trouble at my first post-college job because I reacted to problems with, "How do we fix this," instead of an emotional meltdown. My manager said I clearly didn't care about my job, since I wasn't emotionally affected by the problems. Thing was, I dealt with the problems a lot better than others because I wasn't busy melting down. You'd think a CPA association would appreciate effective action more than emotional displays.