Happens however it happens, right?
Totally. If it works for the couple, that's all that matters.
(In case my previous, long-ass post implied otherwise. It wasn't meant to.)
I'm just trying to tell you that we have nothing in common besides both of us liking your penis.
Anya ,'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 43: Who am I kidding? I love to brag.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Steph L. - Dec 30, 2008 3:39:38 am PST #6182 of 10000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Barb - Dec 30, 2008 3:45:41 am PST #6183 of 10000
“Not dead yet!”
(In case my previous, long-ass post implied otherwise. It wasn't meant to.)
Oh hell no, babe. Don't mind me if I'm not clear enough-- only on my second cup of coffee and because of the Footloose influence last night, I'm now listening to 80s synth-pop. You have to forgive me if my brain is leaking out of my left ear.
billytea - Dec 30, 2008 3:52:23 am PST #6184 of 10000
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Totally. If it works for the couple, that's all that matters.
Yep. I've never moved in with someone (not including my brother) without a marriage certificate. Conversely, I knew I was going to propose to Wallybee within six months of meeting her. I think it's by now well established that I should be a role model for no one.
beekaytee - Dec 30, 2008 4:00:39 am PST #6185 of 10000
Compassionately intolerant
One of my most significant relationships involved a proposal on the first date.
Steph L. - Dec 30, 2008 4:01:45 am PST #6186 of 10000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I was in a writing group with a woman who married her husband after 24 hours of knowing him. They've been married for (IIRC) 20+ years now. Maybe 25.
beekaytee - Dec 30, 2008 4:24:27 am PST #6187 of 10000
Compassionately intolerant
I've been giving this a lot of thought lately. The previously mentioned rel, which did not end in marriage (and rightfully so, despite the rightness of the feeling at the time) ended nearly 8 years ago.
Since then, I've had 3 relationships of lesser significance, each of which taught me a lot.
I honestly believe that I am now the perfect candidate for a relationship. Here is a handy pdf checklist of criteria.
Incidentally, I would love feedback on the list. I use it frequently and am always open to refinement.
But now that I've achieved all but one half of one criteria, I don't have a relationship and don't anticipate (nor feel a need for) one any time soon.
It feels like the notion of mindfulness that says that once you give up an attachment to something, your energy wanders off to work on other stuff.
At one point I was annoyed by this. Oh great. I do all the work and my prize is...NOTHING! Until I realized that my prize is the absence of drama. I think I'd enjoy being enriched by a man in my life but I think I'm okay with not.
Does that sound like tragic rationalization?
Jessica - Dec 30, 2008 5:11:33 am PST #6188 of 10000
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I come from a long line of speed-partnerers. My grandparents' engagement was 5 days long. My parents met when my mom rented a room in my dad's apartment (and they've never lived apart since). DH and I are the relative slowpokes because we'd been dating for a whole FIVE MONTHS before we got engaged. (And then were engaged for 5 years because neither of us wanted to get married while we were still in college.)
(Also, hi Bitches! It's been a while since I've poked my head in here.)
beekaytee - Dec 30, 2008 5:13:02 am PST #6189 of 10000
Compassionately intolerant
and they've never lived apart since
This made me go 'awww.'
Laura - Dec 30, 2008 6:08:01 am PST #6190 of 10000
Our wings are not tired.
I am a rapid coupler. It was either 1 or 2 dates and forget it, or moved in and married. Worked or didn't.
Great list bonny. You would have better wording, but I would add the ability to strongly disagree with civility and respect.
Shir - Dec 30, 2008 6:44:48 am PST #6191 of 10000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Shir, is your sister at home now?
She is!
(I call home both to my place in Jerusalem and to my parents' place. I know it's confusing, but they both homes to me, though in different ways. My sister, of course, is in my parents' home - which is why I don't get to see her now. Are we on the same page now, or did I explain something you didn't get confused about?)