Thanks.
Look, you got a little stabbed the other day. That's bound to make anyone a mite ornery.
Mal ,'Ariel'
Spike's Bitches 43: Who am I kidding? I love to brag.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Hil R. - Dec 07, 2008 3:51:19 pm PST #3604 of 10000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Laga - Dec 07, 2008 4:13:04 pm PST #3605 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
muscle relaxation~ma, Hil.
Am I projecting or do the puppies who are left seem sad?
brenda m - Dec 07, 2008 4:37:15 pm PST #3606 of 10000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Are we down two now?
Laga - Dec 07, 2008 4:38:16 pm PST #3607 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Yes, I think Ando and Akoni went home today.
Laga - Dec 07, 2008 6:35:26 pm PST #3608 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Mom wants to invite my sister to Christmas. The one who I told I didn't want to hear from her again unless we met in a therapist's office. I thought the family mutually decided we could not stand for her drama anymore. I mean, I know we did, but now it's Christmas and Mom wants us all to be together no matter what. I will have to work Christmas night. Maybe she could come over after I leave.
WindSparrow - Dec 07, 2008 7:05:06 pm PST #3609 of 10000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Laga, stick to your guns on this one. Try to gently remind your mom that not being accepted into the group is part of the natural consequences for the habitual behaviors of this sister rather than a "punishment", and that protecting others from the consequences of their behaviors is what enablers do, and it keeps them from facing the true need to change. It hurts like hell, stopping the enabling, because so much of what it is feels like being loving and helping. Telling such a person that there will be unpleasant consequences of continuing in a behavior then giving in on those consequences is rather like giving a child a cookie to shut 'em up out of a screaming tantrum. Doesn't solve the root of the problem, and reinforces the idea that carrying on is the way to get what they want.
You know what, you can tell me to shut up, if you want. I'm sure I'm preaching to the choir on this one.
{{{{{Laga}}}}} that's what you really need.
Laga - Dec 07, 2008 7:12:52 pm PST #3610 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Thank-you so much WindSparrow. I may have known what you were saying but I desperately needed to hear it & I think Mom does too.
Laga - Dec 07, 2008 7:28:02 pm PST #3611 of 10000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
coffee-
because part of me wondered if all of us being together on Christmas was more important than the decision we made as a family. Thanksgiving felt really broken to me, just me, D, my other sister and two of her kids. The food was fabulous but it didn't feel like the real thanksgiving.
It's good to be reminded by an impartial glowey-box friend that we really are doing what's best for my sister even on the baby Jeebus' birthday.
Shir - Dec 07, 2008 7:42:58 pm PST #3612 of 10000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
{{{Laga & family}}}
WindSparrow - Dec 07, 2008 8:02:59 pm PST #3613 of 10000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
{{{{Laga}}}} Strength and peace~ma to your whole family, and true healing~ma for your sister.