I agree with Fay's take on "nonthreatening." I always read it as "he won't hurt me, either sexually or in a non-sexual yet physical way."

Plus, I think that "nonthreatening" is more of an adjective that's skewed towards how PARENTS see the boys their little girls might be squeeing over. Parents who aren't ready for their 13-year-old girls to be sexual (whether that's right or wrong is NOT the point of my comment, so I'm not addressing that) are going to be more comfortable if their daughter is running after some androgynous boy-band boy who looks like he can't grow facial hair.

Because, right or wrong, the appearance of androgyny (or lack of machismo) means, to parents (and especially fathers, I'd wager) "This boy will NOT fuck my daughter."

But there's also the element to "non-threatening" for the girl herself that means "I don't even know what I want from boys yet -- maybe I don't even WANT boys -- but I know what I'm 'supposed' to want, and I know that boys are 'supposed' to push us to do sexual stuff but I'm not ready for that, and this boy seems like he won't push, so yay."

To me, that's what "non-threatening" means.

ION, all that bloviation is just my way of killing time at the hospital; my own non-threatening boy just got taken into surgery about half an hour ago.

Ativan is my friend.

Also, I think I need to go back on antidepressants, but I can't think about that right now or I'll lose my shit entirely (which, in and of itself, is probably confirmation that I do need to go back on them).

I just -- I went off the Zoloft mostly because of how much weight gain it caused (but also because I thought my depression was under control). I don't want to go back on something that's going to make me gain more weight.

And I know -- probably better than a lot of people -- that there are antidepressants out there that don't cause weight gain, and I have a good doctor who will work with me to find one that both works to keep me from being crazy AND doesn't make me gain weight.

I'd just rather not have to do it at all, you know?

Okay, I'm going to go forage for lunch. There's a Chinese place here, which is tempting.

It's OK to send another mild email to touch base now right?

I'd say so. With maybe some indication of being aware that the long wait is understood. But it's been a long time since I was job hunting; I may not be the best info resource.

Here's to a quick surgery and smooth recovery to The Boy, Tep, and an equally quick journey for you in finding serenity. You got a lot on your plate right now, darling.

Thanks, scrappy.

an equally quick journey for you in finding serenity.

Although now you got the theme song to Firefly stuck in my head.

Oh noes!! rends garments, except for her own One True Bra, which has been discontinued for a while

Actually, I found it online. It had NOT been discontinued, Nordstrom just stopped carrying it in stores. Stupid bitch salesperson. She was terrible anyway, I should have known that she didn't know what the hell she was talking about.

Do we have any Ohioans? I just got this email, which I am happy to forward if anyone is interested:

Eddie Izzard, one of the fore-most Stand-Up Comedians of his generation, will interview and moderate a Q & A with Dennis Kucinich, America's most courageous Congressman, in Cleveland Ohio on Nov 2nd at the PlayhouseSquare. Questions will span from American politics, to entertainment, to the world at large. Come laugh, ask questions, and be entertained by two amazing minds at work.

man, what a week for you guys, Teppy. I'm sorry. I hope things improve soon.

Dentist~ma for Shir, job~ma for Tom and surgery~ma for Tep's Boy. That's too damn much for one week, I call a moratorium on life-sucks events. Hear me, Universe?

::shakes wee fist::

Every time I find my OTB, it ends up badly. It seems when I gain weight, the next size up in no longer the OTB and I have to go find a new one just for that size.

I want to buy 10 of them, but at $60 a pop, I don't have the luxury. Maybe I'll splurge and get 2. I'm going to the outlet mall with my mom tonight, I'll see if I can find them there.

Vortex, that would be me. Unfortunately, the car will be in the shop over the weekend. The head gasket blew and the intake manifold has to be taken apart, yadda yadda 1k scary cakes.

I hope the interview went well for Tom, the dentist went well for Shir, the gift-finding's going well for Andi, the boy sails through his surgery and the calm descends on Teppy.