I would say go ahead and have him call you, since that's all it seems he is willing to do, then YOU call the others. Once they are in the loop, you all can work out a visiting schedule and stuff. Sure, it would be better if he did so, but it ain't gonna happen and you are completely right that they should be involved.
I'll be in my bunk.
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Scrappy - Oct 23, 2008 7:41:26 am PDT #8990 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
WindSparrow - Oct 23, 2008 7:42:02 am PDT #8991 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Teppy, it sucks that your dad is in the hospital again. Much medical~ma for him. Can you have a family conference with his siblings (with or without him) to develop a plan. One of the possibilities is that if he calls you for something, you then have the option to call on one of his sibs to ask them to help out. Or you can work up a rotation, so maybe he can alternate calling each of you in turn?
sj - Oct 23, 2008 7:44:08 am PDT #8992 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
{{{{{Teppy}}}} Much health~ma to your dad. I'm sorry that he is so bad about communicating and taking care of his health problems. Calm~ma to you.
Dear Landlord,
I'm sorry that I left you the same message this morning that I left you last night but a non-working toilet is not a minor issue, imho.
No Love,
sj
Vortex - Oct 23, 2008 7:44:37 am PDT #8993 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I know that being all resentful makes me a lousy, shitty-ass daughter, but I'm not goddamn Mother Theresa.
no, it doesn't. It would be one thing if there weren't other people, but he has more than you, and he should be utiliizing those people. I feel similarly, because my mom has decided that I'm the person that she wants to spend time with, despite the fact that her sisters and a legion of other people are waiting to be there for her. (she's getting better, though) I'm sorry that he's doing this to you, I know how it feels.
Toddson - Oct 23, 2008 7:46:54 am PDT #8994 of 10001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Teppy - even Mother Theresa had a staff to rely on, so in that sense, no you aren't her. ijs
§ ita § - Oct 23, 2008 8:04:37 am PDT #8995 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Steph, I agree with Scrappy-- you call the others. It doesn't have to be you flying there in a panic every time, and it seems your dad isn't going to accept the argument, so maybe he'll accept actual proof of someone showing up before/instead of you.
WindSparrow - Oct 23, 2008 8:05:40 am PDT #8996 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
I know it is more or less standard operating procedure for service professionals such as furnace repair guys to be late. But when we made the appointment for them to come today at 11, they were aware I need to leave for my job at 1. So I am starting to get a little antsy about it. Now, from the sound of it, it should not take terribly long to swap out the parts that need to be replaced. But still, I am very grateful that my supervisor at today's location has some flexibility in both mind and schedule herself, that she is ok with me being late today.
sj - Oct 23, 2008 8:09:34 am PDT #8997 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
WS, I would call the company to see if they are running on schedule and to remind them when you have to be at work. Sometimes you have to be a pain in the ass to get things done.
sj - Oct 23, 2008 8:09:43 am PDT #8998 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Beverly - Oct 23, 2008 8:20:30 am PDT #8999 of 10001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Tep, I have to agree with Hec and others on the radical acceptance of who your Dad is and is going to be, no matter how much you--and we--wish otherwise. So, phone tree. He calls you, you call his sibs, they take it from there. And keep you in the loop, of course. But only as a loop-ee, not the whole damn lasso. And now that I've mangled that metaphor to frelling death, I'm sorry he's having problems again, and I wish him all health and recovery vibes possible.
sj, I'm pleased you've found such a great car, and I hope you get your logistics worked out to get it converted as quickly and painlessly as possible. New car! Also? The black--black looks fabulous on you and can always be accessorized differently as the mood strikes. As for your toilet issues? I'm afraid I'd find a chamber pot and present the landlord with the contents, for him to flush down HIS working toilet. What? I never said nice, did I?
ND, take a breath, man. You've more than earned it.
Hil, sister in do-it-anyway-ness. I hope now the caffeine's mostly out of your system your heart stops playing rhumba rythms.
Barb? How's the ankle? Are you being kind to it and yourself?
Emily, I'm so sorry to hear about the mishap. As far as living in Real America goes? DH and I traveled about 350 miles to and from home yesterday, up through VA into WVA. I was surprised to see as few political yard signs and bumper stickers as I did, but not surprised that every one I did see was McCain-Palin. Yes, very very Real America. Uh huh.
Furnace repair guy immediate appearance-ma to you, WindSparrow. My treadmill is here! Well, in the city, anyway, and purportedly on the way to my doorstep. Which is why I'm sitting here looking out the front window, phone at hand. It's only two weeks late, I'd like it not to be any later.