Nothing like that kind of governmental asstwattery that makes you motivate to NOT get married!
And they wonder why some parents don't bother with the legalities.
Sweet lumpy minion, you're the only one that understands. Probably 'cause I haven't sucked the brain out of you yet.
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Connie Neil - Sep 22, 2008 9:43:01 am PDT #6308 of 10001
brillig
Nora Deirdre - Sep 22, 2008 9:47:18 am PDT #6309 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
yeah, I don't blame you. Well, there's no rush at least.
Since reading of your dilemma, I've been having some swirling thoughts about marriage as a government institution that I am not sure how to express. I'd definitely be coming at it from an privileged point of view (heterosexual, able to work. And, um, married.) But is marriage really an institution that really serves society anymore, or is it a governmentally enforced vestige of patriarchy and financial transactions?
I don't know.
sj - Sep 22, 2008 9:51:41 am PDT #6310 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I already feel married. Which is the other reason why I don't feel like I am in a huge rush. I just know my mother will kill me ded if I get pregnant before making it official. I'm just really lucky that TCG has a good health plan that I can go on as soon as we're married. Otherwise, I'd be screwed.
erikaj - Sep 22, 2008 12:01:17 pm PDT #6311 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
Sometimes I'm really reminded of why Belzer used to call anyone he dated in his routines "My future ex-fiancee."(/phony cynicism) Of course, I love him tons, but it's insane to marry your hecklers. Next time I fill out a form, it would be so tempting to write, under Marital Status: Waiting For Keith Olbermann to Get Bored At The Kids' Table. But perhaps I've said too much. Again. But seriously, girlfriend is a zygote. Like if I dated her, eyebrows would raise, and I'm not(whispers) 49. But maybe he *likes* bringing crayons to restaurants.(/fake catty)
sj - Sep 22, 2008 12:20:26 pm PDT #6312 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Wow, I killed the thread for two hours! Thanks for reviving it Erika.
erikaj - Sep 22, 2008 1:03:06 pm PDT #6313 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
Near-death is my gift.The other day, I was so tempted to give my favorite quote on the Obama page as"When I first met you, you were like "Oh, I burned the damn muffins. Now you go into a bar and sailors come out." If all liberals were buffistas, I would have. This is one of Ted Kennedy's favorite quotes, in my profile. Now I want to hear him talk about "the Damn muffins." God help me.
Connie Neil - Sep 22, 2008 1:08:44 pm PDT #6314 of 10001
brillig
I'm listening to the Moody Blues, the 1969 album about the moon shot. They were so damned hopeful back then . . .
Nora Deirdre - Sep 22, 2008 1:26:59 pm PDT #6315 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Wow, I killed the thread for two hours!
Nah, I think it was my musings on marriage that did it.
ChiKat - Sep 22, 2008 1:30:48 pm PDT #6316 of 10001
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
But is marriage really an institution that really serves society anymore, or is it a governmentally enforced vestige of patriarchy and financial transactions?
Speaking as a fairly privileged person here (straight, able to work, but not married), I think that marriage does not serve society anymore. My personal take is that marriage should be to serve the couple and no one else. Do I want to get married? Not necessarily in the legal sense, but I would like to have a ceremony of committment with my life partner.
Assuming, of course, I, you know, meet him.
Deena - Sep 22, 2008 2:42:48 pm PDT #6317 of 10001
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara
I was just telling Greg yesterday that we should go back to the way they did it in the middle ages. Sign the legal contracts somewhere else, then go to the church (or place of choice) for a ceremony that means something to the participants without actually linking the two.
Have you guys read the article about the couple who got married without a license? The girl's father is a pastor, and he is telling all of his congregants not to get a marriage license because the state they're in changed the titles on the license from Husband and Wife to Party 1 and Party 2.