oh man, {{Sean}}

Sox, I don't miss Ohio's pollen sitch, either. Hope the Buckeye state was kind to you.

{{Sean}}

Owen's first day of 4K is tomorrow. The bus gets here at 12:37. I just emailed his special ed teacher and I hope things go smoothly tomorrow.

Not at all! I need the perspective from people who have been divorced, because, not having been so myself, I don't understand The Boy's P.O.V. on some things.

Hee. I can haz a divorced perspective too. That's so weird.

So, from my perspective, and in my experience too, yeah, from his side he's comfortable enough with you to be willing to share this stuff that hurt him so badly before. At a rough guess, he kind of hopes this will help you be a closer couple, and that what you get out of this is that he takes relationships seriously, and he's in a relationship with you, so you can trust him that he takes your relationship seriously.

That's what I reckon is maybe coming from his side. I would also say, in my experience, that he was wrong to pull out the wedding photos, especially in that context. I think your reaction is entirely normal on being confronted with this stuff like that. To quote Hec:

So the trickier part with the new person is that you do want them to understand who you are, and what you've been through. But there's no real safe way to express this huge, life changing experience to them. The life changing experience being the divorce - not so much the previous marriage.

I feel this too. Getting divorced is an event that exerts tremendous gravitational pull in my adult life, and in my self-image. (In fact, I feel mostly positive about it looking back, but that doesn't make it any less significant.) And I've remarried, and my marriage with Wallybee is so much healthier than my first marriage, and the experience of my first marriage has a great impact on the person I am in this marriage. But there's no safe way to talk about this with Wallybee. It's a part of me from which she will always feel left out. Unlike the rest of my past, she can't really picture herself in relation to it without feeling excluded from it.

She knows what happened, of course, and those have been the most delicate conversations of our marriage. But I can't see any way that pulling out the wedding photos could end well.

There is snow in the mountains of Utah. A very cold, wet storm rolled through yesterday, and it's going to be cold tonight.

They expect us to be in the 90s again in a week or so. It's time for colds to arrive.

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I like this recent pic of us: [link]

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Such a cute married couple!

I like this recent pic of us

Me too. Cutieheads.

Hah! I really like the next picture with the drink!! So cute!

just catching up after a weekend away. Vortex, I am so very sorry for your loss.

lisah! How are the pets? I misses all of them! Were they happy to see you?