Yay! New thread! Nice title.

Boo! meara's employers! Not nice.

I'm this close to saying that we are no longer going to have a little party after the elopement because it's becoming too much of a problem.

This is what we ended up doing as our small get together after the marriage started becoming a Thing. We said nope and instead booked a trip to the Keys. Woot!

{{{meara}}} When I got on the ADs, I did just what you said - I went in and while explaining my tale of woe started crying. That pretty much sealed the AD deal.

{{{meara}}} What they said. Probably start at GP (since you already hopefully have a relationship there. My GP once offered me Prozac-Lite (not what she called it) when I was asking for BCP because of my raging PMS depression. So if you can get in there soonish, good place to start.

Tons of ~ma to you. I'd totally offer to poke through the United Technologies/Hamilton Sundstrand (my current owner) Job Postings for you if I knew what (exactly)you do. Matter of fact, profile addy's good if you want me to start poking. We MUST have sites in the PNW.

sj, if it wouldn't feel too passive-aggressive, maybe you could start forwarding those emails to TCG to field for a while? He's not as burned out on them as you are, so might manage to still be polite and perky where you'd like to cut a bitch - plus when the volume's psycho he'd get why you're getting so frustrated.

Oh, hey! New thread. Niiiiice.

Or just go to my GP and start crying? That seems a tad melodramatic, but OTOH melodramatic is how I'm feeling these days...

It's what I did. And she was the one who referred me to a shrink, who recommended a therapist, yadda, yadda. I found that easiest because it meant everyone was in the same provider network and it made the insurance labyrinth easier to negotiate.

Or just go to my GP and start crying? That seems a tad melodramatic, but OTOH melodramatic is how I'm feeling these days...

This is what I did, too. When my GP walked into the room I burst into tears, he listened to my ramblings then gave me a prescription and recommended several counselors.

{{{meara}}} much ~ma for you.

Why isn't the universe playing nice! How many times do we have to tell 2008 to BEHAVE!

I'm this close to saying that we are no longer going to have a little party after the elopement because it's becoming too much of a problem.

Dude, do it. Or lay down the law that you are not planning a single thing until after. Or else let him do all the party planning, if he doesn't think the stress is any big deal.

ALL the party planning -- not "oh, I'm going to let the boy pretend to be involved tee-hee-hee", which way too many women fall into. And if you want to do it, great. But if you really, honestly don't -- don't let the world foist a thing on you when you don't want to have one.

You are not eloping so that you can have two weddings.

Or just go to my GP and start crying? That seems a tad melodramatic, but OTOH melodramatic is how I'm feeling these days...

I went to my doctor intending to be all rational about it and wound up doing the above. A certain Buffista, who shall remain nameless, had the reaction of "Good. Now your Doctor knows what a mess you are."

Just tell your doc. However it comes out it comes out and you figure out what to do from there.

I have told them that we'll let them know when we figure out what we're going to do, but now I'm getting weekly e-mails. And of course no one is bugging TCG, so he doesn't understand why I'm getting so upset.

OK, this is a fun one! When they ask say "why don't you ask HIM!!!" and burst into tears/forward him the email.

Fun in a slightly evil way, but fun.

t HAPPY BIRTHDAY'S Scrappy

t burns sage and stuff to de-Ted McGinley Meara

Um... writing down all your symptoms, feelings, stresses, etc. before going to see the doc is a great thing. One of the times I went to the GP for depression, I just sat there dumbstruck with tears welling in my eyes when he asked what I had come in for. Wisely, he asked, "Depression?" I nodded and handed him my List. He went over it, said, "Wow," and got to business.

Alternatively, printing off a self assessment such as this one: [link] and filling it in is another great way to start the conversation with your doctor.