But then I think, if you know the library is going to create a situation where the avoidy thing is going to be exacerbated, then -- why not avoid the library?

Um, isn't that where we started?

I meant don't go in the first place. If you don't check out books, they can't be overdue and cause you stress.

I'll start going back ot the library at some point and return books on time but I keep thinking, also, that this will be the time that they cut me off for good.

So I think work probably could have stayed open however, it's a mess out there and I'd hate to think about traffic with that much rain and wind. And the dumbasses who think rain means go faster, don't think car lights should be on during the day (even in the rain) "Because I can see", and don't use the turn signal.

My parents both gripe ,"I can never get over" um yeah that's because you don't signal! Geez. Signal and you may be surprised.

CAKE MIX BROWNIES

1 box chocolate cake mix

1 stick butter, melted

2 eggs

1/2 c. splenda

1 (8 oz.) pkg. cream cheese

Sounds about right.

Except I can't understand why they used Splenda™ in the mix, then 1/2 "box" of sugar for the icing.

Plus? Coming from a big family, it still causes me a little pause when I read about people using sugar from boxes. Sugar came in 1, 5, 10, and 20 pound bags in my childhood. Occasionally a box would be bought--of cubes...and that would be for a special occasion.

And I have netflix because I do the same with video stores.

Hahaha, yeah. I would return a DVD 5 days late in the drop box, and then not rent any DVDs for another 6 months because I felt bad about the late fees. Netflix is my DVD savior.

And the dumbasses who think rain means go faster, don't think car lights should be on during the day (even in the rain) "Because I can see"

The same reasoning applied by those who think parking lights are adequate at dusk, and don't turn headlights on until someone flashes them or they nearly run over a cliff.

They are called parking lights for a reason, folks.

Thank goodness Daytime Running Lights are slowly taking over as the older cars are winnowed out by entropy.

Right. I mean, library fines don't paralyze me, but other situations do, and the longer it goes, the harder it is to do anything about it, and the worse it gets.

Don't try to apply regular, sane person logic to it. It doesn't work. Chances are, the person being oh-so-avoidant KNOWS in the non-broken part of the brain that they are being crazy about it, but the broken part's louder.

Plei said what I wanted to say better than I could have. Except, for me, I could totally see returning library books becoming one of those things. I don't have a library card anymore.

Plei said what I wanted to say better than I could have. Except, for me, I could totally see returning library books becoming one of those things. I don't have a library card anymore.

I should disclose that it's NOT an issue for me right now because the SPL dude looked at me funny when I tried to pay my small fine. But it has been in the past.

Woah. That sushi may not be what you think: [link]

"We've secretly replaced this caviar with smelt eggs, lets see if the customer can tell."

I feel bad and dread dealing with it and so I put it off, and then it gets worse and so I put it off.

I'm with askye and Plei and the rest in the "Maybe if I don't deal with it, it will go away" camp. You can get into the avoidance cycle with just about anything.

What I loved about the sushi story was that two teenagers took it on themselves to do it. I also loved what the father said about how they got their samples: "It involved shopping and eating, in which they were already fluent."

Maybe if I don't deal with it, it will go away

I am guilty of this with money. In fact, I'm doing it right now.