Susan, sounds like an excellent mindset/plan. And, compared to the horror stories I've heard, sounds like your Dr. should be canonized.

And just the other day I realized I've been eating stupidly for years now because I keep saying, "I'm going on a diet soon, like next week, so I'd better enjoy X now." Where X is potato chips, Dr Pepper with every meal, or whatever.

Ooh! I know that one. And you end up eating more, or eating things that are way over the top that wouldn't have even been appealing if you hadn't been pretending expecting to be on that diet next week.

Ooh! I know that one. And you end up eating more, or eating things that are way over the top that wouldn't have even been appealing if you hadn't been pretending expecting to be on that diet next week.

Or you finish the bag of chips/cookies/too big of a slice of cake/etc. because you have to get it out of the house before the diet starts!

So I'm trying to make a mental adjustment from, "Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow you must diet" to "How can I be kind to my body now?"

It's wild, isn't it? Realizing that what your body wants is actually a vegetable and that by giving your body that vegetable you aren't On A Diet, or even Adhering To My "Eating Plan," but just -- eating what your body wants.

It's intuitive eating, and it's not always easy, since I've spent at least 25 of the past 37 years learning ways to NOT listen to my body. But when intuitive eating works, it's amazing, and I feel so healthy when I do it.

I'm not comfortable with the word "fat." I prefer overweight. One of the things that totally attracted me to DF is that, while she is (sexily) overweight, she never ever talked about body issues and she carried herself with such confidence that all you thought was, "Wow! This girl is hot and has incredibly spicy brains!" And I know I wasn't the only one who thought this, so it's not just the blinded by lust/love thing.

We've both gained weight over the years and could both stand to lose some, but I still find her incredibly adorable/hot and I'm pretty sure she thinks the same of me (though my own issues at this point are more about my face looking older than my weight - though I would like to be slimmer).

Other than my depression I'm as healthy as a horse whatever weight I'm at.

If I had regular acting work and a boyfriend I would never ever diet again.

But it deffinately hurts the first and almost deffinately hurts the second... so I'm left trying to simultaneously radically change the way I look without feeling crappy about the way I look. I'm a little better at this than I used to be.

I prefer "fat" to "overweight" for describing myself. "Fat" is just a descriptor. "Overweight" is a comparative.

I prefer "fat" to "overweight" for describing myself. "Fat" is just a descriptor. "Overweight" is a comparative.

Right. And even though "fat" as it is most commonly used, is not usually a positive thing, isn't the same true for "bitch?"

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I was talking recently about how part of my problem is that while I know I'm overweight/fat/whatever, my mental image of myself does not reflect this. It isn't until I catch a reflection somewhere that I go - oh yeah, not looking as hot as I thought.

I get so frustrated when I go clothes shopping cause then I do have to look in the mirror and have that reminder that what others see does not match whatmy brain thinks they see.

In regards to eating versus dieting, I have tried for years to just make healthy choices and not sweat it when I want a treat. My problem comes more from the unconscious eating where I grab something cause I'm bored. When I think about eating and making choices I do well. But when I don't think...well there is my downfall.

Yeah, I hear you, Hil. I feel like fat always sounds like an insult where overweight seems more clinical and detached. To me anyway.