ND, most people aren't good at that type of work. That's why there are CNAs. But you're doing it, and you're getting what needs to be done done, and that's a seriously huge accomplishment.
...because God knows you need some satisfaction in life besides shagging Captain Cardboard! And I never really liked you anyway. And you have stupid hair!
Spike ,'Selfless'
Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
P.M. Marc - Jul 25, 2008 8:32:12 am PDT #8641 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Gadget_Girl - Jul 25, 2008 8:35:59 am PDT #8642 of 10001
Just call me "Siouxsie Shunshine".
I'm good at many things. This type of work is not one of them.
But you're a good son. That counts for a lot.
what Barb said.
DCJensen - Jul 25, 2008 8:36:13 am PDT #8643 of 10001
All is well that ends in pizza.
Indeed.
Beverly - Jul 25, 2008 8:41:39 am PDT #8644 of 10001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Nobody's good at this type of caretaking, ND, hard as that may be to believe. It's a learned skill. It's distasteful, though nurturing types can more easily fold the necessary things into the caregiving part of their psyche. It's always worse when it's family.
You're a good man, and you're doing a very difficult job. And while I can pat your shoulder and praise you for doing it, your only ultimate payoff is going to be from yourself. That it was damned hard, but you did it, whether out of love, duty, or necessity, or a mixture of all three. Fact remains, you're a good son.
Laura - Jul 25, 2008 8:44:01 am PDT #8645 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
{{ND}} I'm sorry. I know this is so very hard, but I also know you will do what you need to do and get past it. Care giving is a whole lot different with a stranger than with a parent. Very tough.
Daisy Jane - Jul 25, 2008 8:47:03 am PDT #8646 of 10001
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
(((ND))) Points up at what smarter people said.
Calli - Jul 25, 2008 8:48:38 am PDT #8647 of 10001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
It's a learned skill. It's distasteful, though nurturing types can more easily fold the necessary things into the caregiving part of their psyche. It's always worse when it's family.
Yes, this. Also, the professional caretakers get to go home at the end of the day and recharge. You, not so much.
NoiseDesign - Jul 25, 2008 8:59:43 am PDT #8648 of 10001
Our wings are not tired
As of now, today's caregiver is 1 hour late. Thankfully mom is still asleep.
Can today be over now?
Gadget_Girl - Jul 25, 2008 9:07:13 am PDT #8649 of 10001
Just call me "Siouxsie Shunshine".
Can today be over now?
sorry I can't grant that wish. I really would if I could!
Fred Pete - Jul 25, 2008 9:10:41 am PDT #8650 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.
ND, when the caregiver arrives, go out and do something for yourself. I join in what everyone else is saying about the great things you're doing, but you can only help your mother if you take care of yourself, too.
So spend some time today taking care of ND. Doesn't matter what you do. As long as it's for yourself.