Nobody's good at this type of caretaking, ND, hard as that may be to believe. It's a learned skill. It's distasteful, though nurturing types can more easily fold the necessary things into the caregiving part of their psyche. It's always worse when it's family.
You're a good man, and you're doing a very difficult job. And while I can pat your shoulder and praise you for doing it, your only ultimate payoff is going to be from yourself. That it was damned hard, but you did it, whether out of love, duty, or necessity, or a mixture of all three. Fact remains, you're a good son.
{{ND}} I'm sorry. I know this is so very hard, but I also know you will do what you need to do and get past it. Care giving is a whole lot different with a stranger than with a parent. Very tough.
(((ND))) Points up at what smarter people said.
It's a learned skill. It's distasteful, though nurturing types can more easily fold the necessary things into the caregiving part of their psyche. It's always worse when it's family.
Yes, this. Also, the professional caretakers get to go home at the end of the day and recharge. You, not so much.
As of now, today's caregiver is 1 hour late. Thankfully mom is still asleep.
Can today be over now?
Can today be over now?
sorry I can't grant that wish. I really would if I could!
ND, when the caregiver arrives, go out and do something for yourself. I join in what everyone else is saying about the great things you're doing, but you can only help your mother if you take care of yourself, too.
So spend some time today taking care of ND. Doesn't matter what you do. As long as it's for yourself.
Wish I could do more to help, Drew. My head is still pounding.
Happy birthday, vw!!
Happy anniversary, Barb!!
