Trust me, having someone tell you they can't be with you sucks, but having them say nothing and then get married without telling you? Far worse.

ETA: Which is to say, yeah it hurts, but guess which one left me emotionally scarred and which one I leave random text messages for with inside jokes like "Raisins and Toast!"

Word and word.

{Sean} & {s}

If you decided it needed to end, then the fact that you decided that confirms that it was the right decision. Telling her honestly and in person was the right thing to do. You did the right thing in a mature way. And that always hurts more in the short term, but save pain for everyone in the long run.

Sean, I'm very sorry for the both of you. I agree with the others, it's so hard being the one to end a relationship; it means a lot that you ended it honestly.

(((Sean))) I'm letting DJ speak for me. The hugs are mine, and I'll be thinking of you.

Sean, I'm very sorry for the both of you. I agree with the others, it's so hard being the one to end a relationship; it means a lot that you ended it honestly.

Very rough. {{{{{{{{{{Sean}}}}}}}}}}

Oh, Sean. I wish I could do or say *anything* that would make you feel better, even a tiny bit.

Go to Drew and Kristin's, honey. It'll help.

Sean, I'm home alone for the next few days, so please feel free to come stay. I could use the company, too.

Sean, go to Kristin & Drew's. You should also firm-up your plans about visiting Seattle, too.

Thanks everyone. I know what you all say is true. I still hurt all over and deep down, and feel like I've been punched very hard in the gut. I feel like I want to throw up. But I love you all.

For now I'm just trying to focus on work.

You came to a mature decision and communicated it honestly even though you felt like "the bad guy" that's gutsy and kind and really, would that more men knew how to handle things the way you have.

I feel odd commenting, since I know so little about the situation, but I'm agreeing so strongly I feel a need to reiterate the above.

Emotional courage and honesty are the two greatest gifts you can give anyone. And it is rare to find individuals mature enough to use them.

Bless you for being loyal, and kind enough to do the right thing.

I still hurt all over and deep down, and feel like I've been punched very hard in the gut. I feel like I want to throw up.

This also makes total sense. Not only are you dealing with the emotional overload, but the build up of physical toxins that result from the emotional overload.

If I could offer one scrap of advice, it would be to treat yourself as if you have experienced a shock...keep your body temperature comfortable, use whatever methods are appropriate for muscle relaxing (hot baths are my tool of choice because you get the relaxation with bonus toxin excretion), get plenty of rest (even if you don't actually sleep), drink lots of water and in general, be gentle with your body. Doing so can help to keep the emotional strain for weakening you so much that you end up suffering needlessly.

Wishes for ease winging your way.

eta: Oh, and, if you are open to such things, I recommendthe Bach Flower Remedy "Rescue Remedy" you can get it at any healthfood store. Even if you don't 'believe' in such things, it can't hurt and I've seen it help hundreds of times.

Goodness knows, Buffistas have the empirical evidence of the awe inspiring power of ~ma.