Connie, that's both sad and beautiful.
My heart expands / 'tis grown a bulge in't / inspired by / your beauty effulgent.
William ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
megan walker - Jul 22, 2008 8:26:49 am PDT #7917 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
beth b - Jul 22, 2008 8:27:24 am PDT #7918 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
So glad that you all seem to have figure out how to be strong and true to yourselves.
Glamcookie - Jul 22, 2008 8:28:07 am PDT #7919 of 10001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I agree with megan. Also, I'm so glad you have your dad's ring.
amych - Jul 22, 2008 8:30:21 am PDT #7920 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Connie, I think you all clearly managed to get the good side of your mother while leaving aside the bad as much as it's humanly possible to do so. That's a hard thing to do, and a very good one.
beekaytee - Jul 22, 2008 8:32:47 am PDT #7921 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
The blow that finalized the split with my mother was when my father died.
I just had a old client call to help mediate a situation exactly like this. Major life transitions? Really drag things to the surface.
Yay you connie for winning in the end.
I'm trying to be noble and not think "Revenge is sweet" but not really succeeding.
Totally natural and neither good nor bad. Again I say, Yay You on the self-awareness front.
::golf claps for connie and sibs::
beekaytee - Jul 22, 2008 8:34:15 am PDT #7922 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
PS: Thanks for the delicious lit assist early y'all. Exactly what I needed.
SailAweigh - Jul 22, 2008 8:49:54 am PDT #7923 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
::points up::
What they all said, connie. I'm so glad the trip left you feeling good about you and your family.
Connie Neil - Jul 22, 2008 8:51:49 am PDT #7924 of 10001
brillig
Major life transitions? Really drag things to the surface.
Turns out we all smuggled out things of Daddy's after having been told we couldn't have anything. Sharon's got his old leather flight jacket from WWII--it would need serious restoration to be wearable, but damn, the real deal--and his medals. They wondered where his Air Corps pins had gotten to and I had to say, "Uh, I grabbed those."
Edit: I should have grabbed that box with his collection of swizzle sticks for WWII-era New York. That would be very cool.
beekaytee - Jul 22, 2008 8:57:06 am PDT #7925 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
Heh. In the email workshop I posted about earlier, one of the things I ask about any given message one might send is:
Is it true, Is it kind, Is it necessary.
This post, about a relative of mine and funereal aftermath was true...but definitely not kind or necessary. Thus, the delete.
Nora Deirdre - Jul 22, 2008 9:04:05 am PDT #7926 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
~ma for Vortex dad and family. Knee stuff just sucks.