The real color of my hair is about two-thirds light brown and one third gray. The result is that it's the same color as a rat. One of the (minor) problems with losing your hair to chemo is that you don't have the opportunity to get used to graying hair. It has a little gray, you lose all your hair, and a year later it's "How the hell did I get so old?" On the only hand, I had a lovely soft chemo curl for about a year.

I can't dye mine blue--rigid hospital dress code.

I think AB is just disappointed that, after telling her I was going to get my hair dyed "red," I came home with a darker brown that just looks in certain lights as if I'd been soaking my hair in merlot. IMHO I look gorgeous, but I'll concede it's nothing a 4-year-old would consider red.

It's weird, the number of men who think short hair on women is appalling. Not just not attractive on that particular woman, but philosophically inadvisable.

I'm okay with people having fetishes; I just prefer that they admit that that's what it is.

I don't mean to offend, but if you indiscriminately prefer long hair on women regardless of how it looks on the individual woman, that veers pretty firmly into fetish category.

I mean, I don't pretend my love of guys with big hands is normal. It's an inordinate affection/predilection, which is the what the garden-variety usage of "kink" has morphed into these days.

So, what should I do until I hear from my boy to find out if he's coming over after his dinner plans?

A) Work on my very difficult transcription project

B) Work on school work

C) Clean my living room and finish the dishes

D) Screw all the stuff I *should* be doing and watch shows from the DVR

I don't mean to offend, but if you indiscriminately prefer long hair on women regardless of how it looks on the individual woman, that veers pretty firmly into fetish category.

But "regardless of how it looks on the individual woman" is i so subjective.

Choose D! t /bad influence

I never really like my hair, but I think it's because I have no idea what to do with it.

Yeah, I'm leaning towards D, but actually thinking that if I did something more productive I'll be more likely to stay awake until he's done with dinner.

I know, crazy troll logic.

The shower Mom is throwing for me sounds like it has morphed from a small house shower to a bit of a production. I'm trying not to worry about it.

Oh, goodness. Family. Gotta love 'em.

I'm actually thinking I might run out and get an iced coffee. That's certain to keep me awake for a few more hours...

But "regardless of how it looks on the individual woman" is i so subjective.

None of the women I've seen on the show have said they want to keep their hair because they think it looks better that way. Of course, my favorite is the woman (whose hair wasn't really super long) who insisted her husband would be upset if they cut her hair, and his first comment on seeing her was basically that her hair looked awesome.

And I don't think everyone with long hair has hair that looks ratty, it's just often the case on the show that it is very damaged and really doesn't look good.