I'm sorry, Connie. It isn't easy to get to the place where you can accept your honest feelings about your blood family. Do what is right for you. You have to figure out if going to PA will make it better or worse. You may have to figure another way to acknowledge her passing. I am sorry for your loss, both today and throughout your history with your family. Comfort and acceptance vibes headed your way. The passing of a parent is definitely one of the more unpleasant emotional experiences in this life.
You want to meet the real me now?
Mal ,'War Stories'
Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Laura - Jul 12, 2008 6:53:37 pm PDT #6838 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
Atropa - Jul 12, 2008 6:56:00 pm PDT #6839 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
I'm sorry, Connie.
Typo Boy - Jul 12, 2008 6:58:21 pm PDT #6840 of 10001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Oh Christ world, stop being so fucking hard on our Buffistas.
Drew, may the best possible happen with your father.
Connie, peace to your Mother's memory, and cope ma to you.
Allyson, Police and prosecutors have discretion. They don't a choice as to when they arrest someone and a choice as to when they prosecute someone. What they are doing to your brother may be legal (or not - I'm with everyone who says get a really good lawyer) , but it is not just.
DavidS - Jul 12, 2008 6:59:12 pm PDT #6841 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
That's hard news, Connie.
Whatever your history with your mother, she's the person that brought you into the world. You passed through her body and into this life. And now she's gone.
You might feel a little unmoored. Or not. It sounds like you made that break a long time ago.
Don't dread the trip back, though. You're not the person you were when you left, and neither are your sibs and family. It's not going to be what you remember but something else. And it might be something useful to you.
Vortex - Jul 12, 2008 7:03:21 pm PDT #6842 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I'm sorry, Connie. I wish that I lived near so that I could offer to go with you.
Tamara - Jul 12, 2008 7:04:07 pm PDT #6843 of 10001
You know, we could experiment and cancel football.
Connie, I wish you much strength and the ability to cope.
Fay - Jul 12, 2008 7:16:06 pm PDT #6844 of 10001
"Fuck Western ideologically-motivated gender identification!" Sulu gasped, and came.
Bloody hell. Punctuation all round, people.
Susan W. - Jul 12, 2008 7:17:45 pm PDT #6845 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
I'm sorry, Connie. Strength and peace to you.
javachik - Jul 12, 2008 7:19:04 pm PDT #6846 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
You may have to figure another way to acknowledge her passing.
This. You are the only person who knows all of the mysteries of your relationship, and are beholden to no one else with the way you deal with her passing.
I speak as someone who disowned her biological mother years ago, and know that at some point I will have to answer the same call. You have my sympathy and my heartfelt wishes for peace.
Drew, you already know how I feel, as does Kristin.
SailAweigh - Jul 12, 2008 7:19:50 pm PDT #6847 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
I'm so sorry, connie. It's still a hard situation to wrap your head around. Ease~ma for whatever chances to happen.