You may have to figure another way to acknowledge her passing.
This. You are the only person who knows all of the mysteries of your relationship, and are beholden to no one else with the way you deal with her passing.
I speak as someone who disowned her biological mother years ago, and know that at some point I will have to answer the same call. You have my sympathy and my heartfelt wishes for peace.
Drew, you already know how I feel, as does Kristin.
I'm so sorry, connie. It's still a hard situation to wrap your head around. Ease~ma for whatever chances to happen.
That's a difficult place to be, Connie. My sympathies.
Mother went into a nursing home on Wednesday. My middle sister, who's borne the brunt of immediate monitoring--Mother had been living in an assisted living apartment--then left to go to North Carolina with her new husband for a vacation. Last night she fell out of bed and just seemed bruised, but earlier this morning she was disoriented and when the staff checked on her later, she was gone. I suspect she was trying to leave. Mother was not a woman to give up her independence lightly.
Hubby won't be going with me, both from constraints of budget and because I'm not sticking him on a plane for eight hours. The only flights I've found are red-eyes from Salt Lake with a 4-hour layover in New York, then on to Pittsburgh.
No, I am not the person they knew. My sisters' husbands have never met me, and my niece and nephew have no memory of me. I don't expect miraculous reconciliations, but I think I can avoid weird recriminations. And I will be the same person afterwards that I've always been.
Humble thanks to you all. I am a blessed woman.
I would like to take a stand and say that today has sucked. Ptui.
Oh connie, I'm sorry. I hope you find peace with your family, it sounds like things are hard with them as well.
peace~ma to you & your family Connie.
Drew & Kristen, continued to y'all as well.
Oy vey what a day for Buffistas. 25 min left of it in this time zone. Be done with it already.
Today has indeed sucked quite a bit.
Connie, may the circumstance-forced reunion be peaceful, and allow whatever closure is needed for that part of your past.