Okay, advice sought?

I've been part of a fourway threaded conversation on Facebook with 3 lads, of the you-get-messaged-when-someone-adds-to-the-thread variety. Which is a little more inclusive than this kind of a thread, isn't it? (I mean, if you SPECIFICALLY wanted to address yourself to 2 people, you could just message the both of them, rather than addressing them plus another person in said thread. Yes?)

Okay, so, to give a context, after much discussion leading up to 2 of us going to see a play, and subsequent postmortem of said play, and random blather, spread over a week or 3:

S: (June 5th, replying to R) BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAHB...Will grab you and J one night and talk to you about this idea i had [for a play]...or a few of them anyway.

R (June 5th): K, next week some time?

S: (June 5th) Sounds good, will ring you.

J (June 5th): Sounds good! (I just love to have the last word! Minge!)

R (today): Are we meeting then, or is this just a tease? I fancy going out this weekend and getting some proverbial minge. Is this possible?

J (today): I'm in Phuket Friday to Sunday. But let me know during the week, except for Wednesday.

S (today): I can't do Wednesday either. Mon?

...so, I'm a wee bit unsure whether I'm included in this. What do you think? I'm not, right? I mean, I like all 3 of them a lot, and would like to go along, but do we think this is a No Gurlz Allowed! kind of thing? Ish? 'Cause initially S was talking about this play, but R is just wanting to go out and get wellied, clearly. (But not ACTUALLY go pick up girls, because he's gay gay gay, whilst the other 2 are straight. So there isn't that particular No Gurlz Allowed aspect to the conversation.)

Sorry, I realise this must seem mind-numbingly banal and indeed lacking in social skillz, but I've just spent 20 minutes trying to figure out how to reply without sounding either needy or passive aggressive or weird. And I figure you guys will let me be needy, passive aggressive and weird and not mind too much, so, er, here I am, doing that.

I was going to post this:

Hmm. Is this hypothetical thing a Boys' Night Out?

(Of course, I am often mistaken for a bloke, due to my towering height, deep booming voice, flat chest and general air of dykey butchness, so that's not neccesarily a problem.)

(...crap! No, that's someone else I'm thinking of! So - still not particularly bloke-like over here. Would a false moustach help?)

Sorry, I'm rambling. But I wasn't sure whether you were wanting to go out with the lads, or just go out. I appreciate that there's maybe a slightly different dynamic with a random girl in the mix.

Clearly I am awesome, and inordinately fond of all 3 of you, but if you're thinking of a Just Us Blokes thing, that's fine. You bastards.

but I'm just staring at the screen in a frozen bunny-in-the-headlights way, overanalyzing like a girly girly girl. Somebody slap some sense into me?

eta (Yes, yes, S is the BlokeILike. J is his top mate. R is a guy I like lots & am going to see a movie with next week.)

Happy birthday, Plei!

Susan, I don't want to worry you esp since we live in two different states and all, but Hand Foot and Mouth (Cocksackie virus) is going around my kids' preschool. It's basically a mild fever followed by blisters (a bit like a mild chicken pox).

I was going to post this:

Or maybe just "Am I invited? Or is this a blokes only thing?"

I sent a message to multiple people on a facebook message thread when I meant to just respond to one. It's not very obvious that you are replying all I don't think...and it was vaguely embarassing. I'd sent an invite to a show we're having this weekend to a bunch of people (including, for example, my young cousins) and my friend responded to that message asking how my trip west had been and whether I'd snagged me a man. Which I responded (to ALL but didn't realized until after I hit send!) that I had indeed! And posted links to my vacation pictures. Not something I wouldn't have told anyone on that list if they'd asked but still OOPS!

You're overanalyzing, Fay. You can just post "Is this boyz only or can I come too?" Chances are they'd be happy to have you along. Hell, chances are fairly good it didn't occur to at least one of them you felt excluded.

Fay, FWIW, I think that's an excellent reply. Maybe just go straight from "Sorry, I'm Rambling" to "Clearly, I am awesome." And I'm now envisaging Mr Ploppy instructing you in the necessary resonance for a deep, booming voice.

Coxsackie's going around NYC too - Dylan had it a few weeks ago. (And with modern air travel, it wouldn't surprise me to see it breaking out in more than one place around the country.)

It's usually not serious, but it is unbelievably contagious. We were instructed to give Tylenol for the fever and keep him out of daycare until the rash was gone.

Coxsackie's going around NYC too - Dylan had it a few weeks ago.

And a friend's toddler here had it last month. I think it's usually pretty lowkey, if uncomfortable, for kids but can, like chicken pox, be pretty serious for adults(RARELY, though).

Cheers, billy!

I think Raq got Cocksackie when Mal did, and said it sucked.

IOToddlerN, Dylan has prematurely reached the Terrible Twos. He thinks it's absolutely hilarious to touch things he knows are off-limits. Like the DVD player. And the STOVE. He doesn't even necessarily want to do anything with them, but he'll walk over to the stove, throw me a shit-eating grin, and plant his hand right on the oven door. It's both adorable and infuriating, the little punk. Any advice on making him realize that "No, Dylan, dangerous!" is not a game?

(And now, of course, I have the song from The Fantasticks in my head on a permanent loop.)