It's not a decision, like breaking up with an idea and just saying, "I'm just going to put all of this shit in a box and send it back to the original owner and get on with my life."

Would that there were. I'd all for putting psychiatrists out of business that way. On the flip side, though, even if it doesn't penetrate to your gut, do you on any other level know that what said wasn't true?

ALLYSON! EEEEEE, bats! And I've heard about that novel and was curious about it! Thank you very very much.

Oh, and Perkins says that she wishes she had her camera with her, because she would have taken pictures of my gleeface. According to her and Cass, it was adorable.

(Bats!)

It was beyond adorable even.

Allyson, I want to thank you for taking the risk you just did by revealing your painful history with your mom. In all the time I have known you and in the few times you and I have spent time together in person, I have rarely--if ever--heard you talk about yourself. You've talked about work or your book or writing and your friends, but you are essentially a very private person. You may not be able to flip a switch and leave that pain behind, but the fact that you openly shared the source of your pain was incredibly courageous, and I feel privileged to know you that much better.

So many people in thread have offered such words of wisdom and love and encouragement already. Try, if you can, to hear them. Let me echo Plei:

Allyson, you're right, there is no switch. Just an uphill battle to retrain your brain. But over here on the sidelines, I will offer what I can, which is mostly pompoms and psychic Gatorade or something.

You are worth the struggle.

And Tom, you know I have your back, right? I'm so sorry that this journey has been so long and so painful, and I know sometimes it feels endless. It hurts my heart to think that you and Allyson--two of the most intelligent, generous, and sparkling souls I know--struggle with these demons. I wish I could give you a big hug right now. I will see you in Madison, right? Consider your hug pending.

I won't hug Allyson (I know you're not a hugger), and I feel useless in some ways being in LA when you already have such an incredible cadre of friends here, but the offer for distraction or long conversation stands.

(Also, might I add how appropriate our thread title seems right now?)

Well, crap. Looks like tornado season has well and truly come to Wisconsin, just west of Madison for now, heading northeast. Looks like the storms are staying south of Steven's Point, though.

We do have a Tornado Watch Sail and I am just west of Madison too. =(

The sirens just went off, I'm by the Alliant Energy Center. We'll see what we will see.

I'm in Fitchburg now, heading to Verona soon. Haven't heard sirens yet.

They just stopped. I'd be careful, still, if you're heading west.