Fay, what everyone else already said. You're gorgeous and stylish and spicy-brained, and the new haircut is stunning on you, and that boy is incredibly blessed to be the object of your crush. Go ahead. Ask him. Read Hec's letter over and over until you start, maybe, just a bit, to believe that at least a stray word here or there might be true, and ask him.

ION, arrrrrgh. While I was out running errands, the Big Giant Head called the NP at the desk next to mine just to chat, wondering how things were going with me and whether I was coming in on time. WHAT THE FUCK, BIG GIANT HEAD.

(Since she never actually comes down here to check in with us and I have no legitimate reason for direct contact with her, I've just been coming in on time, opening my email first thing, and bcc'ing her on the first thing I write so she has time-stamped proof of what time I'm in and working. Which is apparently not good enough for her.)

big giant head is a weirdo

Did they have problems with a past person in your position?

I sent DH the link to Fay's pictures. He used the word glamtastic

Jesus God, JZ, does she have REAL work to do?! WTF?

I just found my pocket knife (which I've been looking for for a month) in my ex roommates' room.

At least they left it behind.

The most optimistic assumption is that they borrowed it and then lost it and then found it when moving out?

does she have REAL work to do?!

The NP says no, this is how she spends her days to occupy her time and justify her professional existence. The NP also says, "Fuck her! We protect each other down here, and you could come in at noon and I wouldn't tell her a goddamn thing!"

On day she said " D, I don't know how this will make you feel, but I felt I had to tell you that I have a crush on you."

Oh, now, I like that. That's something I could actually see myself saying. You're putting yourself out there but not so far that you wouldn't survive the fall if you miss.

The NP also says, "Fuck her! We protect each other down here, and you could come in at noon and I wouldn't tell her a goddamn thing!"

We need to buy this person chocolate or whiskey.

hey I just found the missing sink scrubby in their bathroom! I wonder if this screwdriver I found is also ours.

Seriously, if R had never said anything, they would still both be alone. and they both look happy and content now. I know R is. And D, for the first time in years has a safe place to share his life.

I have two other friends, B and a Different D that are in their early 60's. Getting married next year. A very different story from above, but one that has also convinced me that taking chances is better than not.

The ability to be straight forward, and not waste time on games seems to be the blessing of love in later life. Not easy, but there is a lot to be said for being able to ask a question even though the answer might be yes, might be no might be maybe.