Nicely done, Hecubus. You can do the eulogy at my Ray Cole wake(and bring the Pogues)

Are you going to be laid out on a pool table?

That's beautiful, Hec.

So today was our monthly staff meeting - it's held on the first Friday of the month. No one told me that you don't have to come back to the office after! I could have driven this morning and gone and run errands this afternoon until I had to pick up Joe. Instead, I'm alone in my office.

t signs hec's letter

Fay, love, the hair is gorgeous.

From a while back, I clicked on ita's aims-recommended link and nearly died. Shirtless royal rugger ftw.

Hi, it's Friday and I'm bored.

smon - you and I can swoon all over him together in a couple of weeks.

YUH-HUM!

You for the royalness, me for the rugby.

But declaring interest isn't throwing, really. Just asking if the fellow wants to grab a drink sometime. Or saying "you want to walk me home?" or whatever. I have many excruciatingly embarassing memories of times I flung myself and nothing happened, but also many lovely memories of relationships which couldn't have happened without me making a move.

The guy I had a crush on in college and went to his room acted shocked and annoyed and ushered me out. This lead to many nights of bitter self-recrimination. This guy came to seek me out at the 10th reunion to say he always fancied me but thought the whole idea of a relationship was too scary and had always regretted what happened.

t daydreams

mmmmmmmm................

Well, I was going to praise Fay's haircut - basically it is heart-stoppingly lovely,but I can't out do Hec. so I will tell a story - a true story.

Once upon a time there was a woman named R. She was married o P, her high school sweetheart. Sadly, overtime they changed and grew apart until, P the person R had trusted with her heart , grew mean and spent the last years of their marriage beating her self confidence. Divorce happeend. R - found her place pretty quickly. r is quirky , unusual and not conventionally pretty . D was a friend. D is a skinny, quiet, shy guy. R is loud, lively, and curvaceous. R was not even sure D was straight ( no one was) , but she had developed a strong crush on him. On day she said " D, I don't know how this will make you feel, but I felt I had to tell you that I have a crush on you." R knew that there was a possibility that D only wanted her as a friend, and she was willing to accept that, but she couldn't be a friend and not tell him. For awhile, D didn't react - he felt that it was too close to R's divorce.. But eventually, D admitted that he felt the same about R. D had spent years protecting his heart , and is now very happy. R was brave, braver than she had ever been with her husband and She decided the possible rejection was worth the possible happiness. and she was right.

Moral: Ask him.