Illyria: Wesley's dead. I'm feeling grief for him. I can't seem to control it. I wish to do more violence. Spike: Well, wishes just happen to be horses today.

'Not Fade Away'


Spike's Bitches 41: Thrown together to stand against the forces of darkness  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Laga - May 22, 2008 11:51:33 am PDT #158 of 10001
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.

I think I treat boyfriends and girlfriends pretty much the same in public. I tend to be pretty oblivious of how my behavior effects strangers around me.


Steph L. - May 22, 2008 11:53:05 am PDT #159 of 10001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

I'm pretty sure it's partially because I keep pushing myself to keep performing at a higher level than I should be, even though I feel like crap.

Tell you what: I'll take it easy this weekend if YOU take it easy this weekend. (I've been PISSED at myself all day for the simple, lame reason that this accursed itchiness is probably cause to not go to the gym agyer work -- you know, getting all sweaty and hot is only going to make the itchiness worse, and it will drive me insane. Plus, I'm really sleepy from the Benadryl, and I don't need to fall off the treadmill, which I would SO do.)

Deal?


meara - May 22, 2008 11:54:42 am PDT #160 of 10001

Yeah, I'm on both sides of the fence there. I'm not big on PDA because I'm me. But I've also sometimes pulled back from PDA due to the situation and the feel of unsafety. OTOH, there've been times when I've flagrantly chosen to grab a partner's hand (or heck, a friend's hand, when there was no gf around) just to be all "we're here we're queer" about it. So who the hell knows.


vw bug - May 22, 2008 11:55:59 am PDT #161 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

Deal?

Deal. I'm even thinking of going out to my parents and letting my mom do all my laundry and feed me and stuff.


meara - May 22, 2008 11:57:06 am PDT #162 of 10001

I mostly hate the constantly coming out. Every time you start a new job or meet a new person you know it's coming - and it's annoying and sometimes a bit stressful.

Yeah, this. I mean, socially I hang with a very queer crew, so not an issue. But work-wise, or if for some reason I'm not in an unusual social scene (for me)...it gets old. I don't want to be all "HELLO! I"m GAAAAAAYYYYY!" as the first thing they learn about me. But I also don't want to be closeted or have them feel when they learn whenever down the road like I was hiding it...


Steph L. - May 22, 2008 11:58:19 am PDT #163 of 10001
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

I'm even thinking of going out to my parents and letting my mom do all my laundry and feed me and stuff.

Oh, man -- doooooo eeeeeet!!! I'm off work tomorrow because I had requested it a while ago when The Boy and I thought we might go out of town for the holiday weekend. Then we decided not to go out of town, but I figured I'd still take the day off and have a long long weekend.

I don't think a rash is reason enough to convince The Boy to do all my laundry, though. Dang. But I *will* chill out. (At least tonight. No gym for histamine girl.)


vw bug - May 22, 2008 12:00:21 pm PDT #164 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

Oh, man -- doooooo eeeeeet!!!

Ha! That's exactly what my chiro said! Although, I think she may have had a "totally" in there somewhere.


sj - May 22, 2008 12:12:21 pm PDT #165 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Oh, man -- doooooo eeeeeet!!!

Seconding this.


megan walker - May 22, 2008 12:28:05 pm PDT #166 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist

I mostly hate the constantly coming out. Every time you start a new job or meet a new person you know it's coming - and it's annoying and sometimes a bit stressful.

I had a similar thing for a long time about my parents, especially when on dates. You never really realize how many times you are asked point-blank questions about your parents, until your answer for most of them is "they're dead." Stops a conversation cold. It's gotten a lot easier now that I've stopped stressing about making the other person feel bad. But I still sort of wait for the moment, because I know it's coming. Of course, people (I assume) aren't judging me for it, so I got that going for me.


DavidS - May 22, 2008 12:41:22 pm PDT #167 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

I mostly hate the constantly coming out.

Should I get you a "Gay as Fuck!" button, maybe?

Then I'd have to get megan an "Orphan" button too. Maybe just a sad eyed waif would do. Something like a Gorey urchin.

We should all wear little sashes like Girl Scouts and put on all the buttons that we don't want to have to explain to people: Divorced & Remarried, Shared Custody in East Bay, Author, Dead Mom, A's Fan.