That article was dramatically appalling. But I say that as a woman who can't even settle, so what do I know?
Dawn: You're not fleeing. You're... moving at a brisk pace. Buffy: Quaintly referred to in some cultures as the Big Scaredy Run Away.
'Touched'
Natter 58: Let's call Venezuela!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
§ ita § - Apr 10, 2008 12:54:47 pm PDT #995 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Lee - Apr 10, 2008 12:55:21 pm PDT #996 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
YAY sarameg!
yay torchwood too.
Juliana, we should totally hit Vegas in July. I hear Lisa will be there.
megan walker - Apr 10, 2008 12:56:22 pm PDT #997 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
But I say that as a woman who can't even settle, so what do I know?
Well, you shouldn't feel too bad, since even though the author has discovered that settling is the one true way, she can't seem to manage it either.
Dana - Apr 10, 2008 12:57:05 pm PDT #998 of 10001
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
even though the author has discovered that settling is the one true way, she can't seem to manage it either.
Apparently marriage is all about kids, too. Why get married unless you're looking for a potential father? (Admission: I did not read the whole article.)
Trudy Booth - Apr 10, 2008 12:59:11 pm PDT #999 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
NINES
juliana - Apr 10, 2008 1:04:53 pm PDT #1000 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
Juliana, we should totally hit Vegas in July. I hear Lisa will be there.
You don't say??
Woo-hoo, sara! Go have a shot of Fernet.
§ ita § - Apr 10, 2008 1:08:59 pm PDT #1001 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
she can't seem to manage it either.
Let me rephrase it--I don't even have the opportunity to settle.
Dana, you spared yourself wisely. It is all about parenting. There seems to be little other reason to have a man around--at the core of things you're running a small business that is the raising of the kids.
amych - Apr 10, 2008 1:16:45 pm PDT #1002 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
All your oysters are belong to me!
You can have 'em.
In other news, jeans, and ignoring the scary marriage-hound lady.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 10, 2008 1:24:20 pm PDT #1003 of 10001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
“They, like me, would rather feel alone in a marriage than actually be alone, because they, like me, realize that marriage ultimately isn’t about cosmic connection—it’s about how having a teammate, even if he’s not the love of your life, is better than not having one at all.”
And then, for people who actually like themselves, there's the option of not getting married until you find someone worth marrying. What's so horrible about being single that the constant company of someone you don't like and aren't attracted to would be preferable? I realize I'm on the extreme end of the self-sufficiency/cranky loner scale when it comes to the impulse to couple up, but there's a difference between being realistic about how stable marriages and Harlequin romances differ and being so needy for external validation that anything would be better than being alone.
It's perhaps cruel of me, but I'm grinning at the thought that any man with half a brain will be able to pick up the waves of desperation coming off the author and react appropriately (i.e. run fast in the opposite direction).
flea - Apr 10, 2008 1:27:41 pm PDT #1004 of 10001
information libertarian
I read that stupid article, and can sum it up like this: I decided to have a child on my own and now I wish I had a partner to share the brute labor of child care, so I am all sour grapes.
She 1) claims that all unmarried women over 30 want to be married and have children (I can name several Buffistas who: neither), 2) claims that women who do not marry do so because they are too picky and break up with perfectly nice boyfriends because they are expecting some cosmic Mr. Big soulmate passion connection (many of the single women I know who do want to be married are not exactly turning down proposals regularly) and 3) suggests you consider marrying someone who is the person you most want to spend time with but the thought of embracing 'sends a cold shudder down your spine' (this just makes no sense - how can you be literally disgusted by someone you really like?)
Feh, I say.