I think you're only a cougar if you deliberately go after younger men/boys. If it's not a normal thing, you're just a cradle-robber.
When you look back at this, in the three seconds it'll take you to turn to dust, I think you'll find the mistake was touching my stuff.
Buffy ,'Lessons'
Natter 58: Let's call Venezuela!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
meara - Apr 23, 2008 3:09:55 pm PDT #3278 of 10001
Sheryl - Apr 23, 2008 3:48:08 pm PDT #3279 of 10001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Most of the cons I attend these days don't have the jerkhole groper behavior mentioned above. Of course, a lot of the cons I attend now are small (300 people at most) and most people know each other. (Also, there may be lap sitting and other wenchy behavior at the auctions, but no unwanted attention)
Vortex - Apr 23, 2008 3:51:19 pm PDT #3280 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I think you're only a cougar if you deliberately go after younger men/boys.
define deliberate
sarameg - Apr 23, 2008 5:16:25 pm PDT #3281 of 10001
For those of you playing at home, my friend's stepson came home of his own avail today, after sleeping in cars and alleys since Sunday. And thus far, he is abiding by house rules (which are bare room arrest, with leave given by permission only in discreet timeframes for things like snacks and bathroom.)
Such a relief, for now. A long haul ahead.
It was only today his toddler sister said she missed her brother, after merely asking where he was before. She now associates police with scary things in her life, even as her parent try to cast them as good. heart breaks
megan walker - Apr 23, 2008 6:46:55 pm PDT #3282 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
I'd pretty much date any available person I'm attracted to.
Right now I have that luxury. I don't have any romantic plans I could mess up by dating the "wrong" attractive person, so why not?
I guess I generally need other reasons to date people besides finding them attractive. There are plenty of people I find objectively attractive that I wouldn't want to date, for a variety of reasons.
§ ita § - Apr 23, 2008 7:16:39 pm PDT #3283 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
There are plenty of people I find objectively attractive that I wouldn't want to date, for a variety of reasons.
Well, outside of the fact that right now I'm in no shape to date anyone for reasons that are all about me, I use the term attractive to encompass want to date. So it may just be a semantic thing. I don't want to date every guy I find sexy, or sleep with every guy I find sexy, but if there's that pull on a number of levels that includes a yearning to just spend time and seek/provide comfort, then if I'm in dating shape (single, etc) I'd want to date them.
Burrell - Apr 23, 2008 7:26:21 pm PDT #3284 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
So based on meara's definition I'm a cradle robber. And, well, yeah, been called that one before.
Oh well. Some people just have issues.
§ ita § - Apr 23, 2008 8:30:30 pm PDT #3285 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Does the term cradle robber come with a value judgment, meara?
Vortex - Apr 23, 2008 8:44:53 pm PDT #3286 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Not in my case. It's just fun to say. Like "living in sin" I don't care, I just enjoy the phrase.
Shir - Apr 23, 2008 8:46:42 pm PDT #3287 of 10001
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Timelies, Buffistas.
Work. Don't wanna.
Edit: I think I just understood this week HOW MUCH I COULD USE A VACATION. Even just a day off would make things so much better.
Alas, the best chance for me to get that break won't be until May 7th. So right now, I'm just gonna make myself ice tea and dream of lack of responsibility and hanging out with friends.