Everybody else who finds younger men attractive is called "able to see."
Finding someone attractive and dating them are two different things.
Willow: It feels like we're going around in circles. Xander: Our circles are going around in circles. We got dizzy circles here.
'Sleeper'
Natter 58: Let's call Venezuela!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
megan walker - Apr 23, 2008 2:33:32 pm PDT #3274 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
Trudy Booth - Apr 23, 2008 2:40:26 pm PDT #3275 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Finding someone attractive and dating them are two different things.
I'd pretty much date any available person I'm attracted to.
§ ita § - Apr 23, 2008 2:46:21 pm PDT #3276 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Right now I have that luxury. I don't have any romantic plans I could mess up by dating the "wrong" attractive person, so why not?
eta: But then I guess you have to look at what "attractive" means to you--for some it could stop at sexy, for others it goes as far as wanting to make them soup.
Sophia Brooks - Apr 23, 2008 3:07:04 pm PDT #3277 of 10001
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Unfortunately the only available attractive people I meet are students, and while I am not their teacher, that still seems wrong unless they were closer to my age and more importantly, not in my department. I would certainly date a grad student.
meara - Apr 23, 2008 3:09:55 pm PDT #3278 of 10001
I think you're only a cougar if you deliberately go after younger men/boys. If it's not a normal thing, you're just a cradle-robber.
Sheryl - Apr 23, 2008 3:48:08 pm PDT #3279 of 10001
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Most of the cons I attend these days don't have the jerkhole groper behavior mentioned above. Of course, a lot of the cons I attend now are small (300 people at most) and most people know each other. (Also, there may be lap sitting and other wenchy behavior at the auctions, but no unwanted attention)
Vortex - Apr 23, 2008 3:51:19 pm PDT #3280 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I think you're only a cougar if you deliberately go after younger men/boys.
define deliberate
sarameg - Apr 23, 2008 5:16:25 pm PDT #3281 of 10001
For those of you playing at home, my friend's stepson came home of his own avail today, after sleeping in cars and alleys since Sunday. And thus far, he is abiding by house rules (which are bare room arrest, with leave given by permission only in discreet timeframes for things like snacks and bathroom.)
Such a relief, for now. A long haul ahead.
It was only today his toddler sister said she missed her brother, after merely asking where he was before. She now associates police with scary things in her life, even as her parent try to cast them as good. heart breaks
megan walker - Apr 23, 2008 6:46:55 pm PDT #3282 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
I'd pretty much date any available person I'm attracted to.
Right now I have that luxury. I don't have any romantic plans I could mess up by dating the "wrong" attractive person, so why not?
I guess I generally need other reasons to date people besides finding them attractive. There are plenty of people I find objectively attractive that I wouldn't want to date, for a variety of reasons.
§ ita § - Apr 23, 2008 7:16:39 pm PDT #3283 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
There are plenty of people I find objectively attractive that I wouldn't want to date, for a variety of reasons.
Well, outside of the fact that right now I'm in no shape to date anyone for reasons that are all about me, I use the term attractive to encompass want to date. So it may just be a semantic thing. I don't want to date every guy I find sexy, or sleep with every guy I find sexy, but if there's that pull on a number of levels that includes a yearning to just spend time and seek/provide comfort, then if I'm in dating shape (single, etc) I'd want to date them.