Unreasonably high standards are only unreasonable to the point where they're making you more miserable than the alternative.
This is very important I think. I know many people for whom just being in a couple makes them happier than being alone and so that becomes a factor. That's just never been an issue for me.
Yet, I don't think I've ever left someone because I thought that I would be "settling" otherwise, or because I thought I could get someone "better." It's almost always been an issue of fundamental compatability or happiness.
This stupid day will never end. So I'm going to cheat, and make it end. By leaving work early.
It's been a long week, and I'm all worn out....
Having a good relationship means that your own crazy meshes well or nicely balances the other person's crazy.
Heh. I very much agree with this as well, however it amuses me because I frequently find S's crazy doesn't always mesh well with mine. In fact, in many ways our crazies are
not
very compatible with each other, and we can easily make each other unhappy quickly.
But we love each other enough to try to work around that.
Having a good relationship means that your own crazy meshes well or nicely balances the other person's crazy. Trust me, I speak from experience here.
Yeah, there's just as many dudes who are saying that they don't want to subject their crazy on on someone else.
Got it, got it, don't got it, on my wishlist, hmm...
I would recommend Morcheeba's "The Sea." Great song.
Having a good relationship means that your own crazy meshes well or nicely balances the other person's crazy. Trust me, I speak from experience here.
Or at the very least, knowing when to get out of the way of the other person's crazy.
Having a good relationship means that your own crazy meshes well or nicely balances the other person's crazy.
Enh. There's also feeling like you're a complete emotional dead weight with nothing to offer, and just a big ball of need need need. Doesn't put me in a pairing mood.
In fact, in many ways our crazies are not very compatible with each other, and we can easily make each other unhappy quickly.
Oh, there are
many
ways in which Pete's crazy does not always mesh well with mine. But most of the time it does, and the times that they don't? We still manage to get through pretty quickly. But to me, one of the most important keys for a solid relationship is the ability to look at your partner and say
"I think you're crazy, I don't understand this particular quirk of yours AT ALL, but I still love you and want to keep you around".
Previous relationships of mine would not have withstood that particular acid test; I just tried to convince myself that they would.
Having a good relationship means that your own crazy meshes well or nicely balances the other person's crazy.
Also key is being able to seperate your own crazy from the crazy of others - namely immediate family - and not taking their crazy upon yourself. I also speak from experience.
Joe and I like to remind ourselves, "OUR crazy...THEIR crazy."
