Tommy, Happy birthday, bunk!

Oh, thanks again for all the b-day wishes!

JZ, would you be able to commute down the peninsula (I think there is a shuttle that comes from Caltrain)? We're hiring. Our medical benefits suck, but the salaries are very healthy.

I am beyond shocked at how poorly you were treated at the new place. They are asshats of the Nth degree.

I think they're just doing a CYA thing.

This was my very first thought. My second thought was...oh, so a few months from now, it will come out that the company was suffering from some mismanagment issues and they needed to reduce ranks to hide/compenstate for some financial shortfall. Nothing to do with JZ.

Whenever something is sooo very, 'huh?, it points to some other cause. Too bad the bosses aren't able to say what that cause really is...just for closure purposes.

Whatever the case, it ISN'T about JZ.

Big hugs to you dear. And powerful wishes for something much, much better, more stable and enjoyable coming quick-like.

Distant? Jehosaphat(sp), I can feel your warmth all the way on the other coast...without benefit of ever actually being in thermal distance of you.

javachik, I wish I could--especially after our lovely visit the other night, it really sounds like a not-remotely-bad place to work and you sound like an incredibly conscientious, kind manager. But it's not manageable unless we invested in a second car; and, of course, if we had enough income to be able to invest in a second car, I never would've been looking for a different job in the first place.

Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. I am hating on myself pretty hard right now. I just wanted to make things better for my family, and it's all come out the complete opposite. Good going, me. Way to be a competent grown-up.

{{JZ}}

it sounds like their "meeting" on Friday was a lame attempt at covering their asses - while

In the exit interview, they said that both executives had had numerous conversations with me about major issues with my work

when put through my GoogleBullshitDescrambler (TM); amazingly comes out as:

my niece was just kicked off campus at her third vocational college and seeing as my sister has compromising photos of me doing offbeat things with a houseplant and the family lizard at last year's Thanksgiving drunkfest, I have to find a place of employment for said niece quick, before sis mails the photos to my wife (again) or (sob) posts them on the *fake* myspace page she built for me after I went tobogganing naked on the innerstate. And no one else will hire my niece, so here we are. sorry - it's not you - it really is me... John Q. Asshat.

ETA: xpost! (and edited to clean up some rage-grammar)

Sox is so right. And so is Bonny: it's nothing you've done, JZ. You're not only competent, but you're an awesome human being who cares tremendously for everyone around her and IS diligent about responsibilities.

Anyone should be thrilled to have you on staff.

So, I know the commute won't work, but check your e-mail.

Distant? Jehosaphat(sp), I can feel your warmth all the way on the other coast...without benefit of ever actually being in thermal distance of you.

Well, yeah, but I'm different in person. I'm shy at the best of times, and walking into a new environment without a lot of clearly stated job expectations (they had nothing but praise for how I met the expectations that were clearly stated), missing my beloved old boss and our father-daughter relationship, and, not incidentally, working on 5-6 hours' broken sleep max a night since September '06, made me really very quiet and shut down.

Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. I am hating on myself pretty hard right now. I just wanted to make things better for my family, and it's all come out the complete opposite. Good going, me. Way to be a competent grown-up.

If you need to do this, JZ, ignore what I am about to say.

If not, listen up. It WILL. NOT. STAND. for you to beat yourself for something that made perfect sense and...eventually, will make even more sense. I'm sure of it. In the meantime. Entitled asswipes are everywhere, sad to say. These entitled asswipes made a mistake that is causing you temporary pain. Temporary.

Unless you are certain that you exhibited willful, incompetant or criminal behavior, this firing HAS to be about something other than you.

Since it seems impossible that you could be, with your finely tuned conscience, any of those things then you have the option to throw yourself down the well, or ass 'em in the ear. I'm voting for the latter.

made me really very quiet and shut down.

So. You are tired. That surely feels bad to you. It woudl feel bad to me, but incompetant, criminal or uncaring? Nope. Still not gonna stand.

made me really very quiet and shut down.

Sorry, but that's also the environment at your new place, bringing that out in you. It's their stupid, stupid mishandling of the entire situation. They had a gem and they didn't have the patience required to see you shine. Fuckers.