Gah, that's tough. Because freshman orientation and dorm life have got to be just about the hardest environment in these circumstance, I'd think. But I'm not sure bringing it up with her would accomplish anything more than making her defensive and stressing things out worse. Ugh.
Yeah, but you're an amateur fry cook and I come from a long line of fry cooks that don't live past 25.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
Natter 56: ...we need the writers.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
brenda m - Jan 11, 2008 6:52:02 am PST #2494 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
sarameg - Jan 11, 2008 6:53:52 am PST #2495 of 10001
Oh, Scrappy.
§ ita § - Jan 11, 2008 6:54:13 am PST #2496 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Scrappy, maybe tell her you noticed without any of the emotional stuff-the screaming and the crying. Just a "you came in smelling like alcohol last night--what's up?"
Sophia Brooks - Jan 11, 2008 6:54:42 am PST #2497 of 10001
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here
I agree with Brenda. Although I have no actual advice.
Kathy A - Jan 11, 2008 6:54:52 am PST #2498 of 10001
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
I want a taco, dammit! Unfortunately, the taco situation here is grim. Taco Bell makes a better taco than our local Mexican place.
Great thing about Chicagoland is that there are taqueiras galore, even in the suburbs. Now I think I'll stop by the one nearest my apartment tonight that I haven't been to yet but have seen written up online as having really good food.
ETA: Damn, Scrappy, that's tough. I don't have any advice, either, just keeping my thoughts with her and you both.
Aims - Jan 11, 2008 6:55:09 am PST #2499 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
All these uncles sound sort of mean
My uncle K was horrid. He used to refer to my sister and me as "The Lee Sisters: Home and Ug."
brenda m - Jan 11, 2008 6:55:21 am PST #2500 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Ginger, hah!
so I am not sure that she even knows how to use email or that you actually need an email address.
I think I mentioned here the person who, when I emailed her a question, sent her reply to my father with instructions to pass it on to me because she didn't have an email address for me. And she's a doctor, i.e., not an idiot. Under normal circs, anyway.
Kat - Jan 11, 2008 6:57:38 am PST #2501 of 10001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
scrappy, that's rough. I don't have any advice beyond ita's. Is there a way to just put out what you observed and let it be that. It's more about you getting to voice your concern and what she does with that info is a choice she makes.
Cashmere - Jan 11, 2008 6:58:09 am PST #2502 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
Oh, Scrappy, that sucks. I recall my first week as a freshman--all the kids walking in groups from dorms to Fraternity Row and to house parties with their giant, plastic beer cups. Not the easiest environment for a recovering addict.
I hope for her sake, she realizes how easy it is to relapse and what she has on the line.
Stephanie - Jan 11, 2008 6:58:16 am PST #2503 of 10001
Trust my rage
Aimee, that's so awful! I know not everyone's uncles are mean but I'm sort of surprised at all the mean stories. I'm glad my brother is so nice to Ellie. If any other uncles appear and start being mean, they had better watch out!