I understand the stickiness, but speaking in confidence to a social relations professional would not be "airing his dirty laundry" to the school. A counselor or a chaplain would have lots of experience in dealing with delicate matters.

Seconding brenda's no decisions policy. You're free to have whatever response you have. We just want to make sure you get the most out of your decision. Give yourself some time and space to feel and react.

This is a big deal.

he's a pretty bigwig alumnus at her college and I don't think he'd appreciate his "dirty laundry" being aired via his alma mater.

I'd go with the chaplain or the counselor. they have a professional obligation to maintain confidentiality, so you wouldnt have to worry about it becoming campus gossip unless she chose to share.

Good lords, it's thunderstorming.

Here, too.

Just started.

We had wicked fog all day, though. I half-expected to see a giant foot appear, and find myself in a monster movie.

I half-expected to see a giant foot appear, and find myself in a monster movie.

I half expected this to be a Python reference.

Aimee, not that my opinion counts for much because your situation is unlike any I have found myself in, but I would hate to see you give up on your desire to know your sister unless and until she herself vetoes it. If we are overwhelming you with worry about your bio-dad's reaction, that's not what anyone wants. I don't know how to even comment on this, but whatever you decide, may you have your usual good form steadying your path.

Aimee, I meant to say earlier that I think the letter is beautiful. And yeah, take a break, take a breath, and deal with decisions later. Hugs.

Thanks, everyone so much. Once again, it's my peeps that keep me sane in insane situations.

That being said, I have overachievedfor one night and need to go to bed so I can overacheive tomorrow.

Sleep, oh overachieving one. You've earned it.

Hey, Andi, weren't you just recently promoted to the position you're in now? You rock like an amazing rocking one, although I knew that already. And much ~ma.

Aimee, one of my dear friends was adopted. Once she was an adult, she decided to research her birth mother. She discovered that her mother died young, but that she had a half brother, so she contacted him and they actually got along very well. Which is all just to say, don't give up if you don't want to. You'll find a way.