I would also try to give the sense in the letter that the ball is in her court. You don't want her to feel like you want to force a relationship on her, and you're prepared to never contact her again if that's what she wants. I think that would make her more open to talking with you.
Oh, at first it was confusing. Just the idea of computers was like — whoa! I'm eleven hundred years old! I had trouble adjusting to the idea of Lutherans.
Anya ,'Get It Done'
Spike's Bitches 39: Cuppa Tea, Cuppa Tea, Almost Got Shagged, Cuppa Tea...
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Vortex - Feb 04, 2008 10:55:01 am PST #5302 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Aims - Feb 04, 2008 11:08:40 am PST #5303 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
This is basically what I've written:
Dear [Sis's name]-
I have written and re-written this letter both on paper and in my head hundreds of times. I'm not sure what, if anything, you know about me. In short, I am your sister. Technically, half-sister; Your dad is my biological father. I'm 33 years old and live in Ypsilanti. I grew up there and just recently moved back after spending ten years in Los Angeles, California. I am married and have a three year old daughter. She's the cutie in the picture. I'm the brunette.
I waited until you were an adult to contact you so that you could decide if you wanted pursue a relationship with me (which would be great) or not (which is also totally fine). I have always wanted to get to know you, but I also wanted to respect your family and not just jump in and throw you for a loop if you didn't know about me. I wanted to be as unintrusive as possible. You've spent your whole life without an older sister and might not want one (we can be an odd breed). If you don't, like I said, that's totally fine. I just wanted to let you know that I'm here if you do. You can write me at [address] or call me at [phone numbers].
I hope all is well with you and your family. I look forward to hearing from you.
Aimee
amych - Feb 04, 2008 11:11:11 am PST #5304 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
I think that's a beautiful letter, Aimee.
Aims - Feb 04, 2008 11:12:38 am PST #5305 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Thanks, amych.
I think I'm gonna put it on nice stationary.
Aims - Feb 04, 2008 11:13:31 am PST #5306 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I'm also terrified of a horrible, screaming phone call from one of her parents.
Trudy Booth - Feb 04, 2008 11:16:43 am PST #5307 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I'm also terrified of a horrible, screaming phone call from one of her parents.
That's part of why I suggest "warn bio-dad first". They've got nothing to scream about if he had the chance to come clean and did not.
Aims - Feb 04, 2008 11:20:14 am PST #5308 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Either way, warning him or not, I risk the phone call.
Sparky1 - Feb 04, 2008 11:22:04 am PST #5309 of 10001
Librarian Warlord
I'm also terrified of a horrible, screaming phone call from one of her parents.
Caller ID. If that doesn't work, there's always hanging up.
brenda m - Feb 04, 2008 11:22:28 am PST #5310 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I'm also terrified of a horrible, screaming phone call from one of her parents.
You have call waiting Caller ID [thanks, Sparky!], right?
Aims - Feb 04, 2008 11:23:05 am PST #5311 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Caller ID and Call Waiting: True modern marvels.