hugs to you and your GF, GC. I attended a very simple memorial service in a park where guests were encouraged to bring origami cranes and to share something. The cranes were put on strings and hung from the trees. The widow played guitar and one of the kids wrote a poem that was on display. It was really sweet.
Giles: Stop that, you two. Riley: He started it... Xander: He called me a bad name! I think
it was bad; it might have been Latin.
'Selfless'
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Laga - Jan 31, 2008 3:39:36 pm PST #4923 of 10001
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Gadget_Girl - Jan 31, 2008 3:43:18 pm PST #4924 of 10001
Just call me "Siouxsie Shunshine".
GC, my condolences to you, GF, and the family. I'm so sorry.
P.M. Marc - Jan 31, 2008 4:11:58 pm PST #4925 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
GC, peace and strength to you and yours. I am so sorry.
sj - Jan 31, 2008 4:27:39 pm PST #4926 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
(((GC & GF))) I'm so sorry. Peace-ma to all of you.
Susan W. - Jan 31, 2008 4:29:49 pm PST #4927 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
My condolences, GC and GF.
Hil R. - Jan 31, 2008 4:32:45 pm PST #4928 of 10001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Condolences, GC and GF.
I just sent out a few emails about community-supported agriculture programs around DC. I feel all eco-friendly now.
askye - Jan 31, 2008 4:34:08 pm PST #4929 of 10001
Thrive to spite them
(( GC & GF and family))
Pix - Jan 31, 2008 4:40:06 pm PST #4930 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Love, peace and strength to GC and GF and family.
amych - Jan 31, 2008 4:49:07 pm PST #4931 of 10001
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
I'm so sorry. My love to you all.
Java cat - Jan 31, 2008 4:59:33 pm PST #4932 of 10001
Not javachik
Sympathies to GC and GF.
Experiences at memorial services, if you still want some ideas: An in-house smallish memorial (~30 people.) A table set up with photos of the person, albums, things that like. A notebook or other book to write down memories of the person + writer's name (address if it's wanted). One person to read a poem or a prayer, then raise a glass and toast the departed. Others to speak if they want.
Larger/in church: similar, but with family members going to pulpit to talk about the person.
One big tip, have the last person who speaks, if there's a family line-up, for example, be someone who can tell a story about something amusing and/or wonderful that the departed said or did. If people laugh or smile, it prompts them to remember similar things and tell them, which, it's cool to get other's people's experience of a family member.