Albee quote:

"Writing should be useful. If it can't instruct people a little bit more about the responsibilities of consciousness there's no point in doing it."

Interesting. Two issues come to mind: What are the "responsibilities of consciousness" (nice phrase) and what does he mean by consciousness? (which maybe is just me, as I've been reading about that lately).

So we may be hitting the point of less societal pressure again, where people just assume we've already had kids.

That's where I'm at now. Most women my age in Utah are grand-mothers, and any remaining kids at home are probably young teenagers. Ten years ago I was regularly asked how many kids I have, but I don't get that nearly as much now. I get the occasional "how many grandchildren do you have?" but I can answer that honestly with "2", because there are a couple who call me grandma.

I am sure you can match the table to the chairs, Consuela.

Kids -only when I was 12 did I think it was a great idea. For me, I was only interested in having kids if Dad was going to be around and taking a full partnership in the project. I know me and my own level of tolerance fo r need - and I know I 'd do better if I had full back up. ( I did date one guy who thought abortion was wrong, but when I proposed that he take full responsibility for hypothetical child, he blanched.) But anyway, if I had a partner that was strongly interested in having kids - I probably would have had them. but ,no regrets for not having them

and yes, environmental factors play a part of how I feel. but not the deciding factor.

When I was a girl I thought I would have lots of kids, then I met DH#1 and he would have been an awful parent so we chose not to have children. That was never a decision I regretted in that relationship. A dozen years later I divorced and married DH#2 who would have been the best dad ever and we planned on having children. Didn't happen. When I married final DH we planned to have children. We both came from large families and he was father material for sure. Since I was getting older we started with the baby making right away.

It wasn't so much a personal decision as how it fit in with my relationship. Being an older parent is odd at times. Most of my friends are a decade or two younger than me now because we are doing the same stuff.

I'm a blind optimist in the face of certain disaster, so the parenting decision was strictly personal with no regard for the world issues.

It was a factor for me in why adoption was a first choice. I have never really had an interest in being pregnant and I think zero population growth is one of the most over looked world issues, but I also absolutely wanted at least one child. Adoption works for me with those beliefs for my life.

How often do people decide not to have kids because of concerns about overpopulation as it relates to destruction of the environment?

It's definitely one factor out of many for us- though when I bring it up in therapy, my therapist thinks I'm hiding from the real reasons or whatever. But it's a real reason. I do think about adopting but the other reasons I don't want to give birth to kids interfere with that...

Who knows how it will all work out?

I've only ever wanted one. Fertility problems and a high-risk pregnancy means that Paul is also on board with this.

How would you spell this dog's name: Barkey? or Barky?

eta: Stupid web security - have to answer 5 personal questions....

eta2: and an identity icon and catchphrase....

I'm a blind optimist in the face of certain disaster

love my Laura

Always assumed I'd have children and really wanted to. And I've always wanted a bunch of them -- but for environmental reasons I wouldn't biologically have more than two or three. At the rate I'm going it is getting more and more likely that none of them will be biological. And, yes, this bothers me a lot.