We got spanked once in a while. Not with a belt or hairbrush or anything. My dad did smack me upside the head a couple of times that I recall, for mouthing off--which is not good, but his parents beat him regularly, so it was a huge improvement. I know he felt bad about it and apologized when I was older, but it only happend a few times, and each time I had been REALLY pushing the limits, so I don't feel bad about it.
Book: Afraid I might be needing a preacher. Mal: That's good. You lie there and be ironical.
'Safe'
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Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Scrappy - Nov 05, 2007 7:42:42 am PST #500 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Dana - Nov 05, 2007 7:44:01 am PST #501 of 10001
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
I was spanked, but it stopped pretty early. Probably around the time my parents discovered they could punish me by forbidding me to watch that day's syndicated episode of Star Trek.
Matt the Bruins fan - Nov 05, 2007 7:44:03 am PST #502 of 10001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I was spanked a few times, nothing too intense. My dad used a belt on me once, which I think was understandable in the context of his upbringing (large brood of kids behaviorally similar to Hal & Lois' on Malcolm in the Middle, frequent switchings). But Mom pointed out that I wasn't committing arson or digging Burmese tiger traps for the mailman like he and his siblings did, and took over the discipline from that point onward.
flea - Nov 05, 2007 7:45:20 am PST #503 of 10001
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I was spanked - the bad kind was a "pants down" which was hand on the bare bottom. I recall it as more humiliation than pain.
I don't spank my children and don't plan to, though I have grabbed them too roughly occasionally in the heat of the moment.
shrift - Nov 05, 2007 7:45:45 am PST #504 of 10001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
Does that seem weird to anyone else.
Red flag! Red flag!
msbelle - Nov 05, 2007 7:46:53 am PST #505 of 10001
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
I was spanked, but not often. mac has been spanked with an open hand on the bottom from me, but denial of privileges (such as toys, tv, games) is much more effective. Immediate response of leaving the room works better than a spanking.
Trudy Booth - Nov 05, 2007 7:49:11 am PST #506 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I hope I didn't suggest that my dad was a monster about it.
I didn't think so. It was pretty clear to me that he ratcheted down considerably from his parents and then you came down again -- I think that's pretty common with these recent generations.
I had one friend who was flat out abused and promised herself she'd never hit her children -- it wasn't that she thought hitting was always completely irrevocably wrong, it was that she knew she had no sense of what would be sane.
Kathy A - Nov 05, 2007 7:55:31 am PST #507 of 10001
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
My dad spanked me twice (that I remember), the last time when I was around seven and really being obnoxious. He gave me multiple warnings, but I kept pushing the subject, so he spanked me on the rear and sent me to bed early.
After that, they got really good at the "you've disappointed us" mode of punishment. I wanted their respect, so not disappointing them was always at the top of my mind.
Cass - Nov 05, 2007 7:59:58 am PST #508 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
After that, they got really good at the "you've disappointed us" mode of punishment. I wanted their respect, so not disappointing them was always at the top of my mind.This is *still* what my dad uses. And, damn, it works.
megan walker - Nov 05, 2007 8:02:30 am PST #509 of 10001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
After that, they got really good at the "you've disappointed us" mode of punishment. I wanted their respect, so not disappointing them was always at the top of my mind.
My parents have been dead for years and this still works.