Well, that sucks, since it seems you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. It sounds like you are really trying to be supportive so I'm not sure what he expected you to say or do.

Eh. It's ok. They're new parents. They're stressed. I love 'em. It'll be ok.

vw, I agree with megan - it does sound like Captain Logic isn't steering his tugboat. Which is perfectly understandable, what with the whole New Baby thing - but, yeah, I actually think he's the one who needs to grok that maybe you don't have a context in which to have formed a valid opinion, and that you're not just an asshat who takes a stance for the sake of taking one. Don't beat yourself up about this.

I have nothing to add to the baby conversation, except:

You have two moms, megan? Awesome!

(or did I read that wrong?)

So, L.A. people...specifically NoiseDesign, whose idea it was for a Rock Band party in the first place: all signs seem to be pointing to Sunday, Dec. 30. Is that good? Timing is whenever. I was also thinking Laga and omnis and I could do the Museum of Jurassic Technology that morning/afternoon. I don't know how long one needs.

If you're going to the MJT, P-C, I and possibly S (if she's feeling up to it) will be going with y'all. We love that place.

That would be great! And I hope S is feeling better. I was sorry to read about her hospital trip.

Sunday works for me, but I will be a bit preoccupied with packing while the Rock-Banding is happening. Not a problem; I can multitask!

WindSparrow, I have no good advice on your dilemma. Decision-ma for you.

For this colic ridden baby, I'm not sure I or my parents would have made it through my infancy without the fabulous wind-up swing. At least according to my mom. I have no personal recollection. Although I do sort of dread the whole "someday you'll have a child Just Like You" curse.

I am not sure how much work I will have next week. Potential vacation time! Huzzah!

WindSparrow - there are two questions that might help to ask yourself

1) Why do you work? money, you like to help , - and then list them in order of priority.

2) Do you want to move forward? Do you have vague desires to do anything else?

and one more

did you like doing supervising work? If you had the support you needed , would you have stayed in the job?

You have two moms, megan? Awesome!

Sadly, my Mom having died the year I graduated college, I have no moms to speak of. Sniff.

I meant one of my "Mom" employers since I was a nanny for my first few years of grad school.

I had to deal with lots of hyper type-A New York workaholics. But it taught me the valuable life lesson that, once a baby's immediate needs are met (and barring dropping them on the head) babies are pretty resilient creatures. Whatever parenting style works for you, go for it.