I am *really* careful about giving what seems to be advice. I try to be supportive. But, apparently, last night that came off as dismissive. So, I'm trying to add some knowledge to my support. That's all. I don't even pretend to know what I'm talking about, so I've just not even opened my mouth. Apparently, my brother knows me as usually having an opinion, so he thought that when I didn't have anything to say, it was because I didn't have anything nice to say, which wasn't the case. So, trying to at least change that, so I can say, "Wow, well that sounds totally normal, from what I've heard my friends say."

Well, that sucks, since it seems you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. It sounds like you are really trying to be supportive so I'm not sure what he expected you to say or do.

Well, that sucks, since it seems you're damned if you do, damned if you don't. It sounds like you are really trying to be supportive so I'm not sure what he expected you to say or do.

Eh. It's ok. They're new parents. They're stressed. I love 'em. It'll be ok.

vw, I agree with megan - it does sound like Captain Logic isn't steering his tugboat. Which is perfectly understandable, what with the whole New Baby thing - but, yeah, I actually think he's the one who needs to grok that maybe you don't have a context in which to have formed a valid opinion, and that you're not just an asshat who takes a stance for the sake of taking one. Don't beat yourself up about this.

I have nothing to add to the baby conversation, except:

You have two moms, megan? Awesome!

(or did I read that wrong?)

So, L.A. people...specifically NoiseDesign, whose idea it was for a Rock Band party in the first place: all signs seem to be pointing to Sunday, Dec. 30. Is that good? Timing is whenever. I was also thinking Laga and omnis and I could do the Museum of Jurassic Technology that morning/afternoon. I don't know how long one needs.

If you're going to the MJT, P-C, I and possibly S (if she's feeling up to it) will be going with y'all. We love that place.

That would be great! And I hope S is feeling better. I was sorry to read about her hospital trip.

Sunday works for me, but I will be a bit preoccupied with packing while the Rock-Banding is happening. Not a problem; I can multitask!

WindSparrow, I have no good advice on your dilemma. Decision-ma for you.

For this colic ridden baby, I'm not sure I or my parents would have made it through my infancy without the fabulous wind-up swing. At least according to my mom. I have no personal recollection. Although I do sort of dread the whole "someday you'll have a child Just Like You" curse.

I am not sure how much work I will have next week. Potential vacation time! Huzzah!

WindSparrow - there are two questions that might help to ask yourself

1) Why do you work? money, you like to help , - and then list them in order of priority.

2) Do you want to move forward? Do you have vague desires to do anything else?

and one more

did you like doing supervising work? If you had the support you needed , would you have stayed in the job?