And I can't reconcile the writing of the people who see fundamental flaws in other people's interactions writing them captivatingly. She doesn't seem to get motivation. What's a good murder case without one?
I can't really defend how inconsistent her character is, but I think they started the show with this Kathy Reichs character -- a forensic anthropologist who writes books and teams up with a more empathetic FBI agent -- and over time they upped the conflict between her approach and Booth's. She's the scientist who doesn't understand human emotions, etc., but they couldn't drop the book writing stuff. On the other hand, I bet Patricia Cornwell is a nightmare.
I've met people who come off as Asperger's and never as haughty as her. Narcissists, sure, even when they were right about great they were--it's just how pleased she is about much greater she is than other people.
This doesn't strike me as unusual, having an acquaintance who is almost certainly on the spectrum, and widely nicknamed "the asshole of Harvard." (Which is saying something! But he did apparently write one of the best English-language books on Buddhism, which means he is doing fine, even without empathy.)