it's just an annoying inconvenience that the registry information is never in the invitation where everyone coming to the wedding can see it

That's what I'm thinking.

I mean, I'd really like to know what colour tie this wedding is, so I can plan my dress accordingly. But if I don't bump into the bride, I'm going to wing it. Calling her up in the month before the ceremony to ask questions about it? She needs her own time. I can't imagine the deluge of questions about registries you'd open yourself up to if you hadn't taken the simple opportunity to inform people silently.

people wonder why I need a g/f. It's for stuff like this. Traditions. Hidden traditions. The "right" thing to do. Ugg. Head spinny.

Didn't help talking to my dad last night and he pestering me "who's the lil lady dragging me to a wedding" Um. I'm going to celebrate a friend getting hitched. "well, guys only go if a lady is dragging him, it's a subtle hint, see, this is what I want from you... so... who's the lady??" I'm going stag dad. "nonsense, then why would you go?" :: head -> table ::

Thanks gang. Y'all made the blood pressure simmer down from moment of panic. LOVE YOU ALL!!!! OK, now I should get on the road and pick up sound system, and head down before traffic gets bad.

whoa, who gets married on a Monday night?

She is a stage manager, he is the master electrician.

That's what I was thinking. (Theater people, not the exact jobs.) I've been to a few Monday night weddings. Mine was on the Saturday after Fringe, which is a traditional hiatus in MSP.

We just registered at Target and Marshall Field's, on the basis that everyone in MN assumes you register there. Our parents took care of informing the relatives.

Seriously, if I do get married again - my preference would be city hall with a small party afterwards. So much to deal with otherwise!

"nonsense, then why would you go?"

To pick up on the single women made desperate by losing yet another of their number.

Fish in a barrel, my friend.

(I do remember reading somewhere it was tacky to mention the registry with the invitation, but where else would you?)

Well, in theory, if you're invited to the wedding you should know the couple or their family well enough to ask someone (like the bride's mother or maid of honor or something) if they are registered somewhere.

I think these days it's nice if it doesn't come with the invitation, but often couples have websites now, and provided it's not on the front page, I think that's a good place to put it...

Fish in a barrel, my friend.

Seriously.

I don't think there will be a single eligible dude at either wedding I'm going to this weekend.

To pick up on the single women made desperate by losing yet another of their number. Fish in a barrel, my friend.

Alas, from the sounds of it, most are couples. The rest are lesbians. Ooo the story of my life.

really. leaving now.

in theory, if you're invited to the wedding you should know the couple or their family well enough to ask someone

Does that apply with work or hobby friends, though? This is my second krav wedding, and I do know the bride's brother, but that's because he'd routinely travel in from Colorado to do krav here.

I didn't find out the bride's surname until I got the invite.

I don't think there will be a single eligible dude at either wedding I'm going to this weekend.

I will probably be going with one of the most eligible men to this wedding, he's just not eligible for me. I hope we can spin this to both our advantages instead of [genital]blocking for each other.

Honestly, I'm more than capable of rendering myself unattractive all by my lonesome.

I too love this from the questioner's favorite answer:

And don't mind most of these people- none of them are paying a hundred dollars a plate like you and me. Most of them talk about $10-14 dollar a plate weddings- So I guess their cheap gift is OK. I think it's a social class thing- like they don't know any better.

You know, among my people, we were taught that it was tacky to expect your guests to pay for a party unless you'd pre-arranged something like a potluck meal. It never would've occurred to us to try to balance out the cost of a wedding with the value of the gifts, or to think less of anyone who gave an inexpensive, simple gift. I also learned at my mother's knee that you shouldn't spend beyond your means, and that it if a $10-15/head buffet is what you can afford for your wedding, that's the wedding you should have, because what's important is the marriage, and the love, friendship, and good wishes of the people who come to celebrate with you.

But I am, after all, po' white trash from rural Alabama. Low social class, IOW. It's obvious that I don't know any better.

After attending a wedding recently where guests brought their own beer, to suppliment that provided - I have no idea what is expected anymore.

They did have a HUGE gift table and invited family over the day after the wedding to eat left overs and watch them open the gifts. Is that a new tradition too???