Aw. You know you've been in Bitches for a while when you can remember back when Teppy really was vanilla. I mean, VERY vanilla! French vanilla, even - we had whole conversations about the sheer lack of kink.

Um. All y'all know that was just a front, right? I mean, yes, back when I claimed to be vanilla, I wasn't engaging in kinky activities at that time, but I've always, *always* been kink-inclined. And just like a gay person who is single doesn't stop being gay, just because I wasn't actively engaged in kinky activity doesn't mean I was vanilla.

heh. I suspected she was kinky, but just like the gay people you KNOW are gay, you have to let them come to it/out to you in their own time. I assume straight unless told otherwise, and vanilla unless I see the whip in your closet.

I deal with them a lot and the answer is...exactly what Kristin said. Have them put a note in the file so that people looking at the report will know that it's an issue that's had to be resolved before, and just keep fixing it everytime it pops up.

yeah, I had a pain in the ass issue with my credit report when I was trying to get my mortgage. I was an authorized user on my dad's credit card for several years. I cancelled that permission two years ago, when I got preapproved. It KEPT appearing on my credit report. I had to say things like "the account was opened in 1977, do you think they'd give a credit card to a five year old?"

And in another bit of board synchronicity, I just got locked out of one of my bank accounts because they asked those confirm your identity question and threw one in there from a person in Detroit who used my SS to get phone service some ten years ago. Feh.

All y'all know that was just a front, right?

Heh. I was completely fooled, and took comfort in the idea that I wasn't the only vanilla Bitch! And I really am mostly vanilla, unless "wishes husband could be made to take an interest in re-enacting so I could play out some of the scenarios I like to write or at least have more interesting clothes to take off" qualifies as a kink.

Avatar question: Where is Uncle? I know the guy that voiced him died, but I'm hoping the character isn't gone, too!

GC, he's not gone. They found a pretty good replacement; you can hear him in the little shorts.

And I really am mostly vanilla, unless "wishes husband could be made to take an interest in re-enacting so I could play out some of the scenarios I like to write or at least have more interesting clothes to take off" qualifies as a kink.

I'm gonna say if it gives you an illicit thrill, it's a kink. Probably not the technical definition, but one I think everyone can enjoy.

meara, I'm so very sorry you're having to deal with the credit agencies. They are teh suck, and I have seen them reduce the most financial savvy and collected people to oceans of tears and rending of garments.

You may be able to get your bank to get you a copy. BofA gives me mine on request (though it does sometimes cost).

Actually, it makes me wonder what really is kinky anymore. I mean, it certainly is possible that my perception is skewed based on my friends and acquaintances, but it seems to me that kink is pretty prevalent I mean, you can order floggers in a storefront, and find a kink club in every town. Is it possible that what was once "kinky" is now almost mainstream? Discuss.

Is it possible that what was once "kinky" is now almost mainstream? Discuss.

Yeah, that's been going on for decades. Oral sex used to be considered incredibly kinky. Nowadays even anal sex is moving more mainstream.

Or so I hear.

Nowadays even anal sex is moving more mainstream.

I remember reading a magazine article a few years ago about how religious teens were having anal sex because it allowed the girl to remain a virgin. I recall Bill Maher saying something like "If I knew I could have porn star sex by becoming religious, I would have been in the front pew every week"

Is it possible that what was once "kinky" is now almost mainstream? Discuss.

I think "kink" has more to do with the frame of mind of the do-er than of the act its self.

If french kissing or tickling is forbidden in your mind for whatever societal or personal reason and you get off on that forbiddenness you've hit the realm of kink.

Presumably, someone sans baggage could do anything at all without it being kinky.

I remember reading a magazine article a few years ago about how religious teens were having anal sex because it allowed the girl to remain a virgin.

When I was in college in the late eighties we called them "Roman Virgins". Of course, I never actually knew any and I wonder if it is a bit mythical. Surely SOMEONE has done it... but I would be surprised if it were widespread.