I think this is even a little different than that.

See, though--the people who hear what he says? Feel more empowered to perpetuate the stereotypes, but for no good reason. Because we can look it up.

You're right though--choose your battles. I wish we could win them all, or even have the energy to fight them all.

You're right though--choose your battles. I wish we could win them all, or even have the energy to fight them all.

So, so true.

I'm really funny about talking about my diagnosis at school. And, I know this wouldn't require talking about it, but I probably would end up blurting it out, or taking things really personally. Anywhere else, I would have said something.

vw, for whatever it's worth, I completely grok both the very legit offended feeling and the not wanting to blurt in class. Not overreacting at all. OTOH, I do think it would be worth contacting the librarian about it in email -- it may be that she was making a joke that she didn't realize would find an actual target; it may also be that she was badly mischaracterizing the kind of (often quite sound) research that says "author so-and-so wasn't just a wacky drunk like people always said, but there's good biographical evidence for reassessing him and his work in light of what we now know"... in which case she's doing just as much disservice to research as she is to people with BPD.

In either case, the people I've met who do that kind of instruction would be (a) very seriously sorry for having caused you hurt and (b) absolutely want to know that they need to fix their spiel. (And it is a spiel -- if you're only seeing each class one time for a certain set of skills, you reuse lines and examples because there's no time to build the kind of shared vocabulary that you seeing the same group every day. Not a terrible thing by itself, except that it means that she's almost certainly used the same line with other classes.)

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the people I've met who do that kind of instruction would be (a) very seriously sorry for having caused you hurt and (b) absolutely want to know that they need to fix their spiel.

Yeah, this is why I also suggested contacting the instructor. I'd think he or she would want to know.

Yeah, but don't start off thinking they mean to offend. Because I used the term "Munchausen's syndrome" in relation to to factitious behavior on the internet, not knowing that since my editor is multiply chemically sensitive, it meant things to her that I didn't mean to imply, and she kind of lost her shit with me. Start from assuming ignorance before malice.

Start from assuming ignorance before malice.

Oh absolutely but I think to even assume the instructor would want to know so he could change the way he taught is to assume that he didn't mean to offend.

News from the homefront...

DH's van looks crunchy. The back door is crunched in, but the sides are fine. So while the back window shattered, the taillights are fine. Weird. And the airbags did not deploy. He has been on the phone for the last hour or so calling work, insurance, so on and so forth.

K-Bug's interview went well. She should hear if she got the job on Wednesday, I think.

Me, I have a paper to write and I'm NOT IN THE MOOD.

Me, I have a paper to write and I'm NOT IN THE MOOD.

You better snap out of it missy, or you won't enjoy yourself tomorrow!

God, I just watched the most painful episode of Jeapordy EVER. Literally 5 or 6 unanswered questions. By the end, I think they were shortening the response time. AWFUL. Everyone missed final jeapordy. just horrible.

Oh, god, Suzi I totally forgot to call you! I'm sorry!

Tomorrow morning, and insent.